By "efilism", I mean action taking by you to move the human race towards extinction. I think most antinatalists realise that humans will not voluntarily stop having children, so its effectively the only strategy. Theres a number of ways it could be done, but the most effective would probably be to launch nukes to every country on earth. At the very least you'd probably save 10's of billions of people from coming into existance, and humanity would be set back so the population would remain low for probably thousands of years. This doesn't really apply to most people (seeing as it would require a will probably even greater than the suicide route). However, if one cares about others, the person with the will to commit suicide, should probably do this instead. It'd be pretty selfish to view the majority of humans as not understanding the suffering they are in, and yet decide to focus on your own salvation by suicide.
I agree with your argument though, I think any valuing of suffering above desire logically concludes in antinatalism. Although I see the flaw in the valuing of suffering as inherently bad, or not worth it to obtain desire.
Contra popular wisdom, social entanglements almost always lead to worse outcomes, despite the initial "highs" one gets from their initial engagement- in preventing the "lonely" feelings of the isolated individual. — schopenhauer1
I agree with the sentiment that relationships can and often do contain deeper hardships than the emotional highs they provide. However, I dont see any issue with this. I dont want a happy relationship, I want a deep and complex relationship which can provide me with a variety of experiences. I wouldnt want to live without my sadness, without my anger, without the progress that arises through the conflict, and the choices I make in order to experience even more.
I am an egoist, and a big part of my philosophy is that one should preserve and expand instances of their qualia. Purify the deepest and richest of ones experience, both the greatest highs and painful lows, and continue to search for even more purity. This can be as simple as building a collection of music you enjoy and purifing it over time with constant experimentation, whilst enjoying your current collection; or it can be as complex as a trip around the world to meet others and see different cultural customs and art. I believe that whilst all value derives from ones experience, that our experiences are too complex to simplfy them into the hedonistic principles. Afterall, at my core is not a dream of happiness, or a fear of pain, but an insatiable desire to satisy my ardent curiousity!
Eh, withdrawal can also be from what you describe your avocation/vocation which you pursue. If it brings you joy, cool. Suppose the code was deleted mistakenly, and all your hard work was wiped out? Suppose your boss/owner rejected your code as insufficient, inelegant, and trash? Suppose they rejected every attempt, even if you are convinced it is genius? Anyways, strife can be found anywhere, just as much as joy. Pursuits of joy are temporary. That's the point of Schopenhauer makes of goal-seeking, attachments, and all of it. — schopenhauer1
I have a general hatred for humanity, I see the vast majority of humans as being unintelligent, and even when they are intelligent they are so occupied by their emotion that they become irrational. I see how the emotion of disgust turns people in animals advocating death, and how this mechanism of reaction is so similar between people that it makes them look like machines. Im autistic, and I would easily identify with the label "misanthrope".
However, there exists people who I can enjoy hanging out with, and there are people who can actually understand the perspectives I hold and are willing to hear it. It doesnt matter if we have endless fights, I will always want a friend in a world that that rejects me. The mere knowledge of others existance can create a loneliness that dwarfs the benign issues found within relationships.
And yet, I do not wish for a world where I was ignorant of this. I am okay with holding onto suffering, because it means something to me. I dont want to fall into ignorant but happy compliance with the world, I want a gory and painful fight, and I want to come on top.