I think the main contributor to this ‘suffering’ or feeling ‘worse off’ is the unrealistic expectation that this ‘magical’ experience will somehow be free from associated experiences of pain, loss or humility, or will be some kind of antidote to counteract these ‘negative’ experiences. — Possibility
After examining my past relationships, I recognised that the problem was with protective boundaries and limitations I had formed around sexual attraction since childhood. Recognising and dismantling these boundaries was scary and required not only facing some dark, painful truths, but also sharing them with someone who thought they knew me already. It was, and continues to be, well worth the effort.
So I would say that romantic/pragmatic love definitely seems more trouble than most people are willing to face these days. This is partly because we have a long way to travel from our experience of individuality, independence and profound disconnect with the universe, and partly because we can experience one side without the other and in it fail to see the deeper love that each experience of sexual attraction or life compatibility is leading us towards.
But the sum is definitely greater than its parts, and being open to experiencing that deeper sense of interconnection is worth more than any effort you can put in, more than any fear you have to face or any experience of pain, loss or humiliation - in my experience, anyway. — Possibility
What are some metaphysical prerequisites to becoming an antinatalist?
Atheism, right?
Nihilism, but not quite... more like a desire for nihilism
What else?
What positions are incompatible?
Theism
Agnosticism
What else? — Roke
I am an anarchist who desires the voluntary end of human existence. What are these obvious drawbacks you refer to? — darthbarracuda
Is it good to rely on such extensive exegesis? Does this make one's moral choices more transparent or simply fog them over? — Banno
1) By being born into a society that requires one's labor, one is de facto, being used by that society.
2) Doing any work that one would not ultimately do from original preferences (meaning, before buying into slogans, having to buy into some sort of Stoic ideology, lowered expectations, changed expectations, etc.) is a harm to an individual. — schopenhauer1
Perhaps ‘myth’ is not the right word - I think your use of ‘phenomenon’ and ‘experience’ is closer than your previous suggestion that there is ‘true romantic love’ out there that we either have and keep, or we don’t. I’m not saying the phenomenon of ‘romantic love’ doesn’t exist in subjective experience - I experience this phenomenon myself within a marriage of more than 20 years, which I guess makes me one of the lucky ones. But I think it’s false or even misleading for me to claim that I ‘have’ romantic love at any point. — Possibility
It’s a bit like the concept of energy. We know it exists because we observe or experience evidence of change. But we can’t see it, and we can’t say what it really is. So we talk about it in terms of the physical evidence it leaves behind: kinetic, thermal, etc.
In my experience, at the base of all love is the awareness that one’s unique potential and capacity for life is greater for being intertwined with another (and vice versa). This is the source of romantic as well as parental and familial love, deep friendship, tribal, community, humanity, etc. — Possibility
I don’t think it helps to expect anyone to show love on the basis of genetics, ideological affinity or physical attraction. Just as there are many children born to parents who fail to ‘love’ them, so many children are raised in a loving bond that has nothing to do with genetics, and also children adopted or switched at birth can form a bond just as strong or even stronger with non-biological parents.
It certainly suggests that while parental love can be enhanced by genetics, this may have more to do with awareness than any actual connection. — Possibility
As for romantic love, I think the parameters we set for what this type of love ‘looks’ like, and the belief that we are obliged to find one person who best fits these particular parameters, prevent us from being open to love in all its forms. Personally, I think romantic love is a myth - if we work to free the concept of love from the parameters of sexual attraction, and likewise free sexual attraction from the parameters of ‘romantic love’, we recognise that sexual attraction really has nothing to with love as an awareness or deep feeling of interconnectedness - all it does is enhance our awareness or feeling in certain circumstances. — Possibility
I get the sense that we all have the capacity to love and be loved with the intensity of a mother and child bond in all circumstances. The apparent ‘distribution’ of this love perhaps comes down to the boundaries, structures and distances that have helped us to make sense of, control and feel safe in society and the universe in general. When we have the courage to dismantle these and to be aware of interconnectedness beyond them, then perhaps we may find love in unexpected places... — Possibility
So we observe it as ‘romantic love’ when our inner conditions strongly suggest this: sexual attraction, compatibility of genetics, interests, ideologies, life paths, etc. All of these strengthen our awareness of this interconnectedness - but it is concentrated between two actual entities. We are more convinced of this particular pocket of interconnectedness, the more physiological and psychological evidence we experience, and those around us also notice its impact on our outward demeanour and our actions. — Possibility
"...is good" is simple and unanalysable, according to Moore.
Consider a particular naturalist claim, such as that “x is good” is equivalent to “x is pleasure.” If this claim were true, Moore argued, the judgement “Pleasure is good” would be equivalent to “Pleasure is pleasure,” yet surely someone who asserts the former means to express more than that uninformative tautology. The same argument can be mounted against any other naturalist proposal: even if we have determined that something is what we desire to desire or is more evolved, the question whether it is good remains “open,” in the sense that it is not settled by the meaning of the word “good.”
https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/moore-moral/
Moral judgements, like all judgements, are true, or they are false. This follows from their predicate-subject form.
Moral propositions imply an action. That is, one ought act in accord with true moral propositions. — Banno
Life is harmful to every individual: it kills him, or her, me and you. — tim wood
We're creatures of nature.To live requires things. — tim wood
We barter our selves for those things, that we might live and enjoy, if we can, what we can of life. That's the contract, And you're bound by it will-you or nil-you. — tim wood
I suspect that the problem here is really that some people are better at getting the things than others. Maybe too much better. — tim wood
That is such an oversimplification.
They can be incredibly empathetic and even more so than adults.
They are people, and as such are complex individuals with unique ideas and tendencies. — NKBJ
Are children bad? — TheMadFool
Are you familiar with the religious idea of being "in the world" but not "of the world"?
Not being "of the world" represents one separating and distinguishing one's self from "the world" (structure, work, charity, social media, all that stuff) to the extent that one is able. It means identifying what in the world "is not for me" and what in the world "is for me". Philosophers have observed that people are driven like slaves by the demands of the world--not just that you work, but that you have a weed free lawn, drive a nice car, keep the monetary value of your property up, and so on. Strivers are all about achieving maximum rewards and displaying them to best effect.
You don't have to associate yourself with all that. Do you have to work for your daily bread? So you do because you don't want to starve. But you don't have to be a striver; you don't have to be the fastest worker, the top salesman, the largest grossing real estate agent, etc. You can arrange your life to get by with as little as possible -- thus requiring the least amount of effort possible, and least possible commitment to "the system".
How well does that work? At best, I'd say "so-so". At worst it is just another existential shit pile. — Bitter Crank
Do you have any pets? If not, I might recommend getting a six week-old kitten. It would rely on you for all of its needs would grow to love you and you it. Caring for the kitty would get your mind off of yourself, and you would have a companion for 15 to 20 years. — Noah Te Stroete
And as long as it's all about me, it's the endless round of dissatisfaction and suffering you describe. — unenlightened
Is there a secular, non-christian, non-religious version of grace? Yes, and it is elusive. It's a paradox that you can not struggle to get grace. You can't force even godless grace to just appear. You can prepare yourself but you have to let grace happen to you. (At least, that's the way I understand it.) It's like love -- you can't make yourself love somebody, and you can't force somebody to love you. But what you can do is let it happen.
You have to "let go". — Bitter Crank
I know people who didn't, who haven't accepted the behemoth material society reality with joy. I didn't accept it with job. To paraphrase the liturgy of baptism, "...behemoth material society reality, I reject you" (instead of "Satan, I reject you").
I, and others, like you may have to put up with social crap, but we don't have to rejoice in it. You can be as nonconforming as you can manage, and have as little as you can to do with the toilet full of social crap. Granted, it isn't easy. If you have to work (for daily bread) then you are likely to be dealing with at least some social crap. But you don't have to soak in it up to your eyeballs like some people do.
Keep complaining -- it's good for people to hear dissenting voices. But for your own happiness, carve out a little niche where you can feel OK at least sometimes. — Bitter Crank
You have an idée fixe. You could dislodge it with a little effort and that might help. — Bitter Crank
Hi guys I'm fairly new to philosophy of language and have started to learn about the basics. Ive been introduced to Kripke and his argument that proper names are rigid desgnators in that they refer to the same individual in all possible worlds. My question is how does one make this consistent with his causal-historical theory of reference. An individual in another possible world cannot form part of a casual historical chain that Kripke alleges is necassary for a proper name to refer to that individual? — Johnono
s there no room in the house of materialism to accommodate the world such as it is? — StreetlightX
The larger, causative social ills are going to require a revolution (literally, if not figuratively) to resolve. Who is going to do this? Everybody is going to do it because the problems are that big, or it isn't going to happen at all. — Bitter Crank
So, what do you think? Is there value in depression? Or do you believe it's more of a hindrance to life/philosophy? Is it necessary? — NKBJ
@csalisburySince monism is the claim, then yes, duality is part of the one. — TheMadFool
Add one. But even stating with "one", simple unity, is to take an empirically induced principle. If we do not start with one, what sort of rule for counting could we produce? — Metaphysician Undercover
We must be careful not to equivocate between these two senses of necessity, and I think Kant's categories may create ambiguity. His, are probably not the best that could be drawn.. — Metaphysician Undercover
It is necessary that a priori knowledge is necessary. — Metaphysician Undercover
