As long as you do no feffing then perhaps i'll consider saving you a slice. — TimeLine
It is not a semantic trick at all. Giving birth to a child cannot be wrong since the child is not harmed. Something wrong would be doing something that actually harms the child in life. — Agustino
Almost by definition they can't, since an exaggeration is something that goes above and beyond what is the case. — Agustino
Which one lol? — Agustino
Yes I agree with you. But I meant to say there is a positive type of self-love which is NOT selfishness - not benefiting yourself at the expense of others. — Agustino
As far as I know, wrong is when you directly cause harm to someone. Giving birth to someone isn't directly causing them harm, for the simple reason that they don't exist prior to birth. — Agustino
We try to eliminate criminals through punishment. However we rarely try to look at it through the angle of restoration and rehabilitation. — Rosalina
I'm wondering if evil can sometimes be good. — Rosalina
As for why is it necessary for the human race to continue, I don't think it's necessary, but I do think we should continue. — Agustino
Because one of those actions is evil in and of themselves in-so-far as it harms another being, while another isn't evil in and of itself, since it harms no one. — Agustino
Another example - murder is prohibited in the 10 Commandments, procreation isn't. The two are not comparable, it would be an EXTREME exaggeration to say that to procreate is as bad as to murder. — Agustino
What other thread? — Agustino
It's not just selfishness that is at play. Love your neighbour as yourself implies that you should love yourself to begin with, which is different than selfishness, which entails benefiting yourself and the expense of others. — Agustino
I agree with this, but I don't agree that this has anything to do with procreation, because, as I've said, someone cannot be harmed by birth. They can be harmed only by what comes after. — Agustino
What I meant to point out with this, is that some desires are natural, in that they are innate to the human organism - others are not, like cannibalism and the examples you often give — Agustino
Okay I think your analogy fails because killing, in and of itself, is wrong, even if in some circumstances it is acceptable (such as in self-defence). However, procreation in and of itself isn't wrong, even though in some circumstances it can be wrong. — Agustino
There is no child for whom the decision is made without consent. The child simply doesn't exist, so the question of consent is illogical. — Agustino
Maybe, but there seems to be the desire to have your own child too. Maybe people should have on child of their own and also adopt? — Agustino
Yes, and no I don't think I should be. The origins and ends of existence are mysterious. — Agustino
Why not? — Agustino
As for the rest, it should be no big deal for them, too. — Sapientia
Have a read of what Aristotle, Epicurus, and other philosophers have meant by "natural desire". For example. — Agustino
Why do you think sex with the tramp is the same as sex with your wife? — Agustino
I don't have a criteria as such, as it is something that each individual should decide for themselves. — Agustino
However, typically those who can afford children, who want children, and who can provide and protect them should have children.
Well yes prolonging humankind on Earth seems to be what God intended, until the end times at least. Since this started from a discussion of the commandment to "be fruitful and multiply", this is what I shall answer. — Agustino
Because I think suffering can sometimes be rewarding in itself. It is through suffering that you really love someone or something, not otherwise. If you love someone or something, you kind of want to suffer for them you know? Otherwise you don't really love them. What would love be without suffering? An impossibility. — Agustino
Okay yes! So here is my point I believe: you becoming better at playing the drums isn't above and beyond the suffering - the suffering IS your becoming better at drums. It's the same for example with me working out. I don't take the suffering as any different from my becoming stronger. The two are connected like two sides of the same coin are. You seem to function in a different paradigm, where suffering and reward are disconnected, and you undertake the one to obtain the other. But I say that suffering and reward are one and the same. — Agustino
Well to be a natural desire doesn't mean that it is present in absolutely everyone. — Agustino
The human body is the most beautiful thing in existence. Lets me grown ups, and criticize people on substantial, rather than superficial and self-centered fronts. — Wosret
A natural desire is one which belongs to the essence of that organism. Cannibalism isn't a natural desire for example. Nourishing your body, however, is a natural desire. — Agustino
No, I can assure you that having sex is a different experience with a prostitute than with your wife. The two may bear a resemblance, but they are not the same. — Agustino
Yes it is, but not for a particular human being, but rather for the human race as a whole. — Agustino
What's this strange sign? — Agustino
In other words, there's situations when it's not immoral to have a child. — Agustino
Suffering, contrary to your axiom, isn't necessarily evil.
Okay, it seems that this is the point over which we disagree. I don't think suffering is evil, many times the suffering and the reward are not separate. Many saints, for example, have enjoyed to suffer for the sake of God. — Agustino
I never claimed everyone longs to have a child, I said most people. — Agustino
Not all desires are of the same kind. Some are not natural desires. — Agustino
Yes, that's why I made a useful distinction, which you've completely ignored, and spoke of natural desires. That eliminates psychopaths and cannibals, so please, no such examples. — Agustino
Okay, how is this related to two people in love who have sex within the boundaries of a married relationship again? — Agustino
So if you have sex with a prostitute that is no different than having sex with your wife within the boundaries of marriage in terms of morality according to you? — Agustino
Well, most Platonists/Aristotelians - of which the early Christians were - would associate natural with good, for the most part. — Agustino
I don't see an argument here. — Agustino
Of other kind of fruitfulness, including, yes, love. — Agustino
INope, I haven't said it's neither. I said it can be either of them, depending on context. — Agustino
Furthermore, I don't hold that having a child is right or moral by necessity, only that it is not immoral by necessity. — Agustino
Suffering is not always bad, sorry to tell you — Agustino
That is indication it is a natural desire that comes from within man's own being. — Agustino
No, I don't watch Hollywood anymore :P Such bullshit honestly, I get so bored trying to watch a movie nowadays. It's the same crap story time and time again, and it seems bullshitty to experience emotions while starring at the screen instead of by living through them. I can't stand the fakery. — Agustino
Every individual "out there" has, at all times, some condition/state that is not considered normal. But if we see a person walking with a limp, struggling to hear a sound, violently coughing, etc. we don't say that he/she is in any way "screwed up". We have compassion for him/her.
We recognize that some part of him/her is not functioning normally and we show compassion.
We must not really believe that mental illnesses are abnormalities, because a lot of people refer to them with words like "screwed up". Those words imply that, rather than suffering from symptoms of something that has gone wrong, a person is inherently defective, flawed, etc.
And "screwed up" is not a fact that can be confirmed by science. It is an attitude--an uncharitable attitude that sees people as less than human rather than as humans experiencing a variation of what all humans experience: suffering. If psychology is science, "screwed up" has no place in a discussion of psychology. — WISDOMfromPO-MO
Why would not procreating be the baseline, when we have a natural desire to procreate and be intimate? — Agustino
Yes, I do love the person. The sex can be an expression of our love though, that's what you don't seem to understand. It's an expression of it. Just like a bird sings its song, as an expression of its being. — Agustino
This is absolutely false. Immoral sex is different than righteous and moral sex. — Agustino
I disagree. There is a natural desire to procreate. — Agustino
Oh yeah, how funny you are. Only that you forget that the physical motion of the penis inside the vagina isn't all that's happening at all. There's the touches, the looking into each other's eyes, the feeling of each other's bodies, the shared emotions, the feelings, the kissing, the intimate connection etc. You strip the act of 99% of what it includes, and then proceed to deride it. Well done. — Agustino
While that meaning may ALSO be the case it's not the essential meaning of the statement. Why not? Because Adam and Eve were the first human beings on Earth. Who were they to love? Themselves? No, they had to first reproduce. — Agustino
This is ridiculous. So Adam and Eve are the only people on Earth (cause God had just created them) and one of the first commandments is to be fruitful and multiply virtue by evangelizing non-existent human beings in Paradise (cause the Fall hadn't occurred yet) :s Utterly absurd. — Agustino
It is true that "fruitfulness" implies much more than physically procreating, but physical procreation is one of the absolute essentials, which makes all the other fruitfulness possible in the first place. So it seems to me you want to have the tree, without its roots. I do agree that the Bible has multiple levels of meaning, but these levels of meaning are complementary and not self-refuting. — Agustino
This is a frequent misunderstanding of the way sexual desire functions - and Catholic priests aren't taught how to handle their sexual energy, they way monks are taught, so of course they struggle with it. That's one of the reasons why Orthodox priests are encouraged to marry. — Agustino
Being a celibate cannot be wrong, but there are wrong ways of practicing celibacy. — Agustino
nothing [...] can satisfy [...] desire — Agustino
Sure, but it doesn't make it wrong either. — Agustino
That doesn't mean there isn't a right way to engage in it. — Agustino
Sure, but again most people do have a desire to have their own children - to be co-creators. — Agustino
Well this is precisely what Heister was objecting to, he was saying that sex did not exist, except after the Fall. But if sex didn't exist, how were Adam and Eve meant to procreate before the Fall? — Agustino
Then why must I assume the child will agree with my judgement? — Agustino
There is a difference between fucking a girl and being in love with a girl (even when that includes sex). Fucking a girl is like a leper scratching an itch - it's ultimately not fulfilling but it's something one does either out of spite for themselves or out of suffering. Being in love with a girl and marrying her can lead to sex, but the action is different. In that case it's not scratching an itch, but doing something that is positively fulfilling of a natural human desire - the desire for intimacy. I'm sorry if you cannot comprehend that there's more to sex than just fucking. — Agustino
The sexual act isn't necessary with regard to procreation? :s What? — Agustino
Well, leaving the vulgarity aside, the physical connection that happens during sex is mirroring the spiritual connection that happens between the two lovers. A dick in the hole may be a dick in the hole, but the act itself doesn't include just a dick in a hole. — Agustino
First of all this is completely unbiblical and completely false. Read Genesis 1:27-28, which occurs way before the Fall, just after God had created man. What does it say? — Agustino
There is nothing wrong with sex in itself. But sex, like all other good things from God, has been corrupted with the Fall. And instead of being used for intimacy and procreation, it was used for power, status, etc. Promiscuity (and ALL other sexual sins which, by the way, have their root in promiscuity) is a fallen expression of sexuality. — Agustino
What's wrong with it, I seem to be too stupid to realise? — Agustino
Marriage and intimacy are fulfilling for many human beings, and they are goods, including having children. This is just how men and women were naturally created to be. — Agustino
Now, if you either cannot find a woman who fits with you, — Agustino
I don't suggest you should marry someone for the sake of having children or having sex. Only if you find the right person. But if you do, then you would be throwing away something that is precious - at least to most people, given our human nature. — Agustino
So the slim margin that someone might be rich enough to be above the fray of economic obligations means the whole principle is wrong? I don't think so. Also, if you look at most of my other antinatalism threads, I give many, many reasons why procreation leads to harm. This is just one of many. Combine them all together, and you have a pretty compelling case. This is just yet another reason. — schopenhauer1
Why would I be assuming that? You're presupposing that the right thing to do has to be what the child will think is the right thing. — Agustino
Furthermore, I don't hold that having a child is right or moral by necessity, only that it is not immoral by necessity. — Agustino
First of all, I wouldn't call it "fucking" a woman, the word has connotations which denote abuse, or using her. — Agustino
And it's not my creation, it's the creation of the two of us, cause presumably my wife will also want to have a child, otherwise I wouldn't be having a child in the first place.
You seem to think that the sexual act is always evil, but that's not true. — Agustino
God has intended a natural place for the sexual act, which is fuelled by our desire for intimacy and union with the beloved. The act is symbolic of God's creation, and is certainly something holy if done right and within the boundaries of marriage. — Agustino
Of course there's nothing wrong with celibacy either, for those who aren't yet married (like myself) and those who want to be entirely devoted to God (monks/nuns). — Agustino
Also, while human beings are fallen, there is an element of goodness left in us, otherwise we would be unable to recognise what is good in the first place, and salvation would be impossible (much like for those who have committed the unforgivable sin).
Eckhartus' mate, St. Thomas Aquinas writes:
“Human Nature is not so completely corrupted by sin as to be totally lacking in natural goodness.” — Agustino
Yes. That was part of the wisdom of submission he was preaching. — Mongrel
The argument about economic obligations still stands for 99% of people. Suffering exists for 100%. — schopenhauer1
Because you love God, and you believe in the things promised by God. "Faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen" — Agustino
The decision to have a child, is similar symbolically to the divine decision to create the world with its myriad forms in it. It emanates out of love, in this case the creative love that exists between a man and a woman. — Agustino
As you yourself said, that is one point of many. If you want me to clarify something in my argument, make it clear where and why you feel it may not be correct — TimeLine
Are you saying men are never submissive and only women are or that men are only dominating etc? — TimeLine
"Gender" is a social construct while "Sex" is a biological trait. Patriarchal cultures that encourage dominant-submissive roles are not formed due to anything inherent in our chromosomes; such roles are relational. It is driven by a mutually constitutive social experience that attempts to engineer relationships and when in excess - as in, when one person/sex has an excessive need to dominate - exploitation, violence, and other morally abhorrent activities are encouraged to strengthen such differences.
No, it is impossible to dominate me because this submission relies on my consent, which I will never give even in the event where I am coerced by a dominating force. My will is too strong. — TimeLine
I wasn't talking about any particular response on your part, I was referring to your whole modus operandi. You're a jerk. A schmuck. Yes, that's an inappropriate ad hominem attack and I'm deeply ashamed. Someone should take this post down. — T Clark