How seriously do people take the inability to cope with life? — Andrew4Handel
I would take an "inability to cope with life" as a perhaps serious, but vaguely described chronic, rather than acute, problem. People usually have the intellectual and emotional capacity to cope with the problems with which life has always presented people. There are various ways of coping with life--too many to list.
I don't think that those who can not successfully cope have encountered novel problems. What has happened is that their capacity to cope with "life as we know it" has been reduced. There are various ways that can happen: ordinary depression, of course; excessive, chronic alcohol or drug use; major mental illnesses like schizophrenia, anxiety disorders, bi-polar disorder, and so on. Social isolation is a factor. Poor sleep habits, fatigue, physical illnesses, and so on all contribute. "Bad ideas" are a contributing factor, by which which I mean fatalistic thinking, self-fulfilling negative expectations, and so on.
If I were to give an armchair treatment plan, I would suggest this: FIRST, get engaged with people that you like being around--somehow, somewhere. Right, easier said than done; but social isolation is a very negative factor in an individual's life. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 10 -- however many people you can find that you like to spend time with.
Second, if you can find it, if you can afford it, try talk therapy oriented towards building up the strength of your coping ability. If you can't find it, if you can't afford it, then seek out books that can give you develop better life-coping strategies.
Third, if you can, find work that offers you the kind of psychological rewards that you want. Right, again easier said than done. If you work in a very, very bad job, at least try to find work that is merely bad and not very, very bad; maybe even work that is somewhat tolerable.
Engage yourself in positive feedback thinking. Yeah, yeah, yeah - I know: this can sound like self-help bullshit, but there
are positive things going on in your life, and there
are problems you are successfully coping with. Make a list of these positive aspects. No, you don't have to make the whole list all at once. Add to it over time. LOOK for positive things. List problems in life that you have solved. Yes, of course you have solved problems. You are not a basket case.
Say out loud to yourself true and positive statements such as "I am an intelligent person". Andrew4Handel, you are an intelligent person. You have good features, indifferent features, and most likely some bad features -- like everybody else does. Accept yourself (practice it) as a capable person.
Will all this work? I don't know why it wouldn't. It won't work over night, and you may need some coaching from somebody you like and who can give you positive coaching -- it doesn't have to be a therapist. As the song says, "Latch on to the affirmative".
Good luck.