Even odder that you find it odd that I gave Amen an AMEN on the comment. I saw it to be a nail being hit squarely on its head. — Frank Apisa
I was criticizing in this thread his approach, which it seems to me is masked aggresssion, which he is now calling tough love. — Coben
Look, Frank and I get it. It's really simple, it's called tough love. Why would we want to see someone/people suffer from this torment?
Coben, I really do appreciate your exhaustive analysis of the problem, however, I didn't really see where you tried to pinpoint an answer. Did I miss something there? please correct me if I'm wrong.
I've suggested 7 succinct ideas that might provide some fodder toward reconciliation of the problem. I even encouraged any form of emotional expression that might help viz purging this angry resentment towards Christianity. I also did this in order to shed light on some outdated group-think.
I think you are mixing apple and oranges. You are confusing emotions with discursive argumentation. For example, you seem to be saying that since hypothetically you don't believe in philosophical determinism, then one should argue instead for freedom of the will. Emotional intelligence and/or well being is a cognitive process, no?
The OP is alluding to a cognitive solution. And aside from my 7 suggestions which you seemed to ignore, I used tough love as an example of what a friend might say to another friend. I care that people are angry. If by flushing-out the resentment from, say, those 7 ideas, or some other hurtful experience, then that would be a start in the so-called healing process.
Now at the same time, we are adults; not babies. So sometimes we got to put our big-boy pants on and confront the emotion. Hence, many atheists are seemingly projecting some deep seeded, obscure negative emotion. My concern is if we wallow in the drama, nothing gets flushed out. Ever hear of the term analyze till you paralyze?
This is what I don't understand. If I'm an atheist, I would not be angry toward Christianity because it would have no effect on my emotional well being. So, my question is why are Atheists so resentful when it makes better sense to say 'I don't believe in God, therefore, I'm happy'?