Comparing Mental states I'm sorry. If I hurt your feelings it was unintended. — unenlightened
You didn't hurt my feelings. I illustrated that comment because it shows how people can use a term without knowing what it refers to and hence mischaracterise it based on their own values etc.
Finding the term social anxiety was very helpful to me. Because before then I had an excessive fear of people and going out and would only go out at night. So the term did not perpetuate my condition because I was very dysfunctional before I went to the group then I went to the group and was able to socialise and make friends.
One thing that happens when you have this condition is that you feel like you are the only person like this and that it is a character flaw. In general I didn't know what was happening to me. I didn't know that severe anxiety was a disorder with even a biological substrate related to the hippocampus and amygdala.
So what happens is that you have a sense of dread, you blush when your around people and or shake but you have no idea what's going on. In the end I went on medication for depression and anxiety and that was what decreased my social anxiety initially.
There are reasons why I might be prone to social anxiety such as Asperger's, long term bullying, aggressive father etc so it is not magic to imagine why someone might have a turbulent mental life. Also I went to a small branch of the Plymouth Brethren church that was very isolationist and hell and damnation and judgemental. It would be remarkable if I came out unscathed.
How ever much detail I give you (like Temple Grandin's clever lengthy descriptions) can you really imagine what I experienced? Also I am British and gay and that is a different experience from being straight and American or something else.
We are bringing so much to our immediate experience.