What is True Love? All of those things can be considered love, if one thinks of love as approachability. The opposite of aversion. Just superficially, a smiling, waving person, hygienic, well dress, friendly, warm, engaging, all of those things make you wish to approach. Approachability can also be seen in the broader sense as well, that something can be approached, with insurance that it will deliver on something. With a person, as a true love, they would be maximally approachable not because of just the qualities they have, but those, just their skills, or what services they could and couldn't deliver on, but also their services. It's the fact that their motivation, rather than being selfish, or for money or whatever else, they do it because of the extremely high sense of value they put on the individual, so that their welfare, and being approachable to them becomes the higher in significance, in relation to the value they hold to the individual.
Not true love, choosing the wrong one, even abusive family is all about convincing, or realizing that some people that people think are approachable for things that favor their welfare, flourishing or actually hold them with very high value at all, don't actually, and the ones you thought were the dangerous, unapproachables were the good ones all along. .
This view not only accounts for all the forms, but allows me to map it onto actionable forms. This allows me to ask, just how approachable am I? Ohh... but... ohh...