In this part of the discussion, as in some recent posts, that is not directly about what mathematics itself in fact says, I am not trying to convince anyone else to see it the way I do. Rather, these are explanations of my best attempts to, for myself, have a framework to understand abstraction, truth and related questions. As a very broad generalization, I think of at least these two categories: (1) Matters of fact. (2) Matters of frameworks for facts. With (1), truth and falsity apply. With (2), coherence and explanatory robustness applies.
In this thread, for example: That ordinary mathematics says "1+1 is 2" is matter of fact. But whether ordinary mathematics
should say that 1+1 is 2 is a matter of framework. And I take ordinary mathematics not as an account of facts about concretes, but rather as a framework for such facts. And, again, we need to distinguish between what ordinary mathematics does in fact say with what one may think it
should say and what one thinks
should be the framework for mathematics.
Frameworks involving abstractions sometimes work in an "as if" way. There is a wide range of thinking about what mathematical objects are - platonic, fictional, in some special sense concrete, or even extreme nominalism. But whatever we take mathematics to be talking about, at least we may speak of abstractions "as if" they are things or objects. Not concrete objects, but "as if" they are handled grammatically similar to they way concretes are handled.
Common examples, to the point of cliche, abound, such as that the knight in chess is not a concrete knight, not any particular piece of wood or plastic resting on a particular piece of wood or cardboard, but rather an abstract concept that we speak of similarly to the way we speak of concretes. This similarity does not imply that the abstract chess object that is the knight is a certain piece of wood. And so we use such locutions as "It either moves up or down one square vertically and over two squares horizontally, or up or down two squares vertically and over one square horizontally" The 'it' there must refer to something, and it sure as shootin' don't gotta a physical object. Also, 'moves' and 'square'. Moves can even be made by telephone and the piece that one player moves on his board at home is a different piece from the one the other player moves on his board at home, but it is understood (courtesy of ABSTRACTION) that those pieces represent the SAME knight. One can even perform a game of chess purely mentally, as chess masters actually do. And just as one can perform arithmetic and even more complicated mathematics purely mentally. That is courtesy of ABSTRACTION.
And the number 1 in mathematics is an abstract mathematical object that we speak of in a similar way to the way we speak of concretes, but that does not imply that the number 1 is a concrete object.
Going back to even more fundamental considerations, my starting premise is that experience is occurring. And as 'experience' and 'occurring' are the notions I start with, I must take them as primitive.
Notice that I didn't say 'experiences' plural, because I had not yet gotten to saying that not only does experience occur but that experience has parts and thus there are a multiplicity of experiences. But I do go on to say that if I do not allow there are many experiences, it would be intractable for me to talk about the experience that occurs.
Notice that I didn't say "I am having experiences", since I had not yet gotten to a premise that there is a thing that is named 'I'. But then I do refer to 'I' and as a thing, as it would be intractable for me to go beyond 'experiences are occurring' without being able to couch my experiences with reference to 'I', thus I as a thing.
As I go on, I find that certain other notions such as 'is', 'exists', 'thing' or 'object', 'same' 'multiple'. etc. are such that I don't see a way to define them strictly from the primitives I've allowed myself. So I then take such notions as themselves "built in" to whatever thinking I'm going to be doing.
So, by adding more concepts, I eventually - pretty crudely, without all the steps filled in, since I don't claim to have provided even for myself a rigorous philosophical system - get to the idea that there are other people having experiences, and that enough of these experiences have commonality among people such that we can submit claims about them to a process of judging claims as publicly factual or not, and with finer and finer standards of judgement such as those of the sciences. But the very determinations of fact, let alone the conceptual organization of facts, are vis-a-vis frameworks, and it is not disallowed that one may use different frameworks for different purposes.
For me, the value and wisdom of philosophy is not in the determination of facts, but rather in providing rich, thoughtful, and creative conceptual frameworks for making sense of the relations among facts. And, again, different frameworks may be used for different purposes.
Meanwhile, I would not contest that formation of concepts relies on first approaching an understanding of words ostensively.
As I say, I do not propose this as prescriptive, but rather only that it describes my own humble attempt to make sense of stuff for myself. Hopefully it might be a heuristically useful for others, but I don't insist that it must be.