What direction is the world heading in? We have more control about the behavior we display than the emotions we feel. — Bitter Crank
That was my entire point.
If you have rights and freedoms you are in control of how you respond to the behavior of others.
And provided you do not infringe upon the rights and freedoms of others it is up to you to decide what is the appropriate response.
You invite your girlfriend to dinner. She says she is busy. You ask her to suggest a better date. She says, "Never. I don't want to see you again. Don't call me anymore." — Bitter Crank
Yes but she has not caused harm to your rights or freedoms, it was never your right that she should be your girlfriend.
You ask your daughter to clean up her room. She turns to you and says, "Fuck you, creep." (Or whatever it is that daughters say these days.) This response is unexpected. You have 100% control over how you feel at that point? — Bitter Crank
Again this does not harm your rights or freedoms?
How you respond is your responsibility don't you agree, it can not properly be the responsibility of any other?
The boss calls you in and tells you the company doesn't want you anymore. "Give me your keys and I'll escort you to the front door. Your belongings will be sent to you." No uncontrolled emotional reaction? — Bitter Crank
Yes but does this cause you any real harm?
Should we consider hurt feelings a harm to such extent that limit rights and freedoms in an effort to prevent hurt feelings?
Wouldn't that be an effort in vain?
Maybe I am projecting. I have, in the past, been in situations where people got through whatever shields I maintained and "it got to me" and I reacted without selecting the best response. For the last few years I have been much more "in control" in that I have been much less reactive. But then, I have been going out of my way to avoid situations where I might run into static. But still, quite pleasant interactions happen and I can't seem to help respond positively. — Bitter Crank
My point is accountability for how you deal with your emotions.
I am not accountable for how you deal with your emotions and it is reasonable to expect you to be able to do this for yourself despite the fact that your emotional attitudes can be affected from the decisions of others.