The Hyper-inflation of Outrage and Victimhood.
The problem with that is that things like race or sexual orientation are not nearly as strong an indicator as the actual individuals traits. You get much more mileage asking about peoples experiences based on their actual experiences rather than the experiences you think (or even they think) they have had based on their race, gender or whatever other immutable trait they might posses.
You say its simple, but that is becuase you have made it that way, you just judge everything through the lense of immutable traits, a label that satisfies some but is not actually all that accurate (only in the most superficial ways). People are much more than these immutable traits, but if one views them as individuals then that will greatly hamper the outrage agenda and virtue signalling VagabondSpectre is talking about here.
Also, your anecdotal experience of how you are treated by certain kinds of people (whom I would just call people, your specificity seems totally irrelevent to me) is not really addressing whats being discussed here.
This is specifically about a movement, one that operates under the guise and as the unsolicited, unelected, and unverified spokespeople of minority groups in service of an outrage or victim culture. The movement is about power and revenge. Power to elevate certain groups above other groups and revenge for percieved slights of the past targeting innocent people today based on purely superficial traits like the color of their skin (white) or their gender (male).
Whether not you yourself are part of this movement or not I do not know, but its out there and its ugly and its precisely the same kind of false justification anti black/proponents of slavery used to dehumanise blacks in the US long ago. It is a rationalisation structure created not in service to anything just or righteous but rather for a dark emotional fulfilment.