Does being upset indicate something is wrong and out of alignment. — Andrew4Handel
Yes, it could. But being upset when things are out of alignment is a sign that you are normal.
Many people were upset by the 2020 US election results. From the perspective of both right and left, something seemed to be (nay,
was) very out of alignment. Some people are still torqued out about it. In the world there are many purveyors of falsehoods, misrepresentations, errors, and the like. People lie. They fail to see things clearly. Lots of people are befuddled. None of us are ever at peak performance all the time.
Another reason for being upset is that we often extend our emotional tentacles out to where they can be easily stepped on. They do get stepped on and we get upset. Pull those pain sensors back in a ways.
Also, at various times in life we may be emotionally fragile. We are an open sore into which every possible irritant will find a way. The more this happens, the more reactive we get. Before long, we're angry, agitated, and anxious all the time. People start avoiding us.
None of this is about you specifically -- it's more about my own unpleasant states of mind and the states I have seen other people in.
I don't feel 'that way' any more, for which I am thankful. How did I bring it about? I can't claim credit. I was in a bad way, life changed, and I have been much better for the last 12 years.
I do think a change of life circumstances is sometimes the answer. The Radical Therapist motto was "Therapy means change, not adjustment." The problem is perceiving the necessary changes and then engineering them.
If you can eliminate a major source of personal abrasion, that might help.
If you can alter your mindset about something very irritating, that might help.
If you can find a way to accept the world as a very fucked up place, that might help.
If you can't, maybe you can find a good drug that will help you get along with less turmoil. (Psychoactive drugs can help, but they don't usually solve problems, alas.)
Holy men used to talk about "being in the world but not of it". Is that just more crazy talk? Well, not entirely. The world is an unsatisfactory place from many perspectives, and we're stuck here. IF, and it's a big IF, we can find a way to distance ourselves from all the crap we might be able to cope with it better. To some extent,
acceptance of what is is the key. It helps us stop expecting the world to be very different. It helps us maintain psychological distance. It helps us lower our expectations of others to a more reasonable level.
Sadly, all this is easier to do if one has already started to feel better. Otherwise, it's just more irritating salt.