What separates love from something like indifference or manipulation? — John Days
Love knows and
acknowledges the worth of the person in question. "Worth" is actually inappropriate; this has been clear to me for a long while: Worth presupposes value, which presupposes levels of value. It's better to say that love
transcends the concept of the worth of a person; love becomes a
definition, rather than a measurement. Love
defines the human person. How? By saying "You're a human! Love is for you!" That statement, regardless of how pithy, encompasses experience pretty nicely, regardless of how well you've experienced this idea of love.
That's the positive side to how love is different from indifference or manipulation. From there, any other distinctions seem pretty obvious from experience, but...indifference can manifest as presence without content: Being available without actually being available. Manipulation...the previous is a form of it, but more generally, manipulation tends to cut the deepest. A person who manipulates the basic desire for love is someone who can sense basic emotional instincts and plays to those instincts, without regard for the actual individuality or well-being of the person they're exploiting. Manipulation is maybe the worst offense to love of all: ironically, emotional manipulation is one of the clearest indicators of the importance of love for us humans...
Other conditions for love include a willingness to forgive, kindness, patience, and, as is the case with the concept of "tough love", it also includes justice. If we practice injustice toward one another, it cannot be said that we love them. — John Days
No complaints here. So, re: "conditions"...
you say that "a willingness to forgive, kindness, patience, [...] 'tough love'" are conditions of love? Or are you just saying that other people here said they were?
In any case, I'll respond with my own opinion. Yes, forgiveness, kindness, patience, and justice are just a few of the "conditions" of love. But these "conditions" are different than the "conditions" that define love as either "conditional" or "unconditional". The basic word "condition" here means patently different things, just by nature of the English language. Within philosophy, various given "conditions" of love, as you describe it, are conditions in the
legal sense, but if you're going to post here, you
need to remember that this is a philosophy forum. "Unconditional" doesn't mean the same thing; within the context of love (via Christianity) the concept means a love that doesn't waver under any circumstance. So no given
condition alters the state of that love. The fact that that unalterable state might be itself a "condition" has no content as concept because it doesn't avail itself to what conditionality means with regards to love.