Thank you P. I am sure it brought back memories...and I do appreciate your attention to this matter. I admire your candor, particularly from the various excerpts from this thread. So before I unpack a few things, let me return the favor.
My point relates to Romantic Love:
I will try to give a synopsis rather than elucidate over the details for now. Years ago, I ended a relationship (a marriage) that was purely based upon Romantic Love. By all accounts, it was indeed a fever pitched, passionate, very intense, somewhat lustful relationship. Almost to the extreme in a selfish way, where we blocked-out the rest of the world. It was movie-like, in that it could have easily been us all alone in the Blue Lagoon or in Endless Love. Or, like a Country song, 'Living on Love'. Nothing else mattered but her and I and our physical desires and passion's. We would have what we called 'all dayer's', where we would be in bed all day, loving each other (usually on a Sunday for some reason). It lasted to the day we parted.
In that marriage, as the years went by, I changed and became a different person with a different perspective. I was forced to change as I got promoted at work (having to lead people), got back into performing music, and explored other hobbies that were very mentally stimulating for me. I grew and evolved from essentially an introverted person, to an extroverted person. My partner stayed an introvert. Additionally, through that process of change I experienced (subconscious) growing pains. I did not know where these pains were coming from; I just knew that something didn't feel right. As I've come to realize, I discovered I only had one component from the so-called Mind, Body, Spirit connection. And as you might have guessed here, the only connection I came to realize then was primarily relative and exclusive to the Body.
To make a long story short, I decided to divorce. I knew it was the best for the both of us in order to continue to grow as people, both personally and professionally. I also became aware that ' homeostasis' would further, only rear its ugly head if I were to try and salvage it. I wanted more. I wanted a higher Love. I wanted the so-called Mind Body Spirit connection.
Fast forwarding, I subsequently learned a little more about Love (through experience and theory-cognitive science-The Psychology of Love, Yale University Press). That there are many theories about Love, but that is all that they really are; no concrete answers, just theories.
A couple statements and questions:
1. How did you resolve your so called struggle or dichotomy with Romantic/Pragmatic Love?.
2. How important do you consider Romantic Love?
3. Can we escape the physical and sexual energy that exists between man and woman (somewhat rhetorical I know)?
One thing (that may be helpful) I did learn through psychology, that there is another component to Love ( among many components of course). It's called Love as an Attachment theory. It basically says: mom sees baby, baby is happy. Mom leaves baby, baby cries. That phenomenon essentially says there is arguably no real intellectual or higher love connection, just a lower- level Body connection ( from the Mind Body Spirit paradigm). Albeit one could argue that there is nonetheless a spiritual connection, I'll just interpret it as contextual in the adult-adult dynamic over the importance of a physical connection- the object itself known as the Body.