They both must coexist so I’m going with the yin and yang. When you love something you hate the opposite. For instance you love fast cars because you hate slow cars. You love riding your mx bike because you hate not being active. You love having sexual relationships with girls because you would hate to have a that with a boy. Action words have a spectrum. Zero hate-full hate. So even though you may love something and not hate the opposite you don’t love it enough to have hate. 50:50. 25:75.

Im a firm believer that I am stoic. It’s helped me deal with a divorce, my daughter moving with her mother, quitting a very good job, wrecking my Harley almost ripping my foot off right after quitting my job so I was unemployed, moving out of a state I said I’ll never leave, getting trapped into a relationship because she was “on birth control.” And now look at me. I make a lot of money doing a job that I love.
The reason I love being stoic. I’m a Pisces so I really don’t use a lot of frontal lobe or my thoughts are usually present thoughts.
1. It’s the Balance. In order to have energy you must have the positive and the negative for current. Those both have a 180 degree spectrum. Zero positive zero negative. Full positive full negative. Every other digit 1-? between zero and full must exist. 2 cannot exist with our 1 and so fourth. So irregardless of how down or up you feel, the current has a median which Is always more stable than fluctuation.
2.There’s really no highs and no lows. Your friends and family will enjoy you better because you have the same attitude daily. There isn’t “well screw you for not helping.” Because you already understand in order to help you must not help. When you help someone your not helping yourself. So you take it as it is.
3.You stop worrying about false ego. You become you versus what society wants you to be that day.

I can go on and on. Have a good day!