choosing involves more than just a good fit, and there's no denying these other motivators. — Isaac
but at that level it's just axons firing, nothing of the sort we could categorise into natural kinds — Isaac
I just don't believe in this notion of a 'true self'. People tell themselves stories and usually these stories are ones they pick from those society offers, or construct from parts thereof. I don't think these are true (nor false either). They just more or less provide a way of understanding the sometimes contradictory mental goings on they have. — Isaac
So, if a reasonably explanatory story offers good social capital, it's a selling point. Truth doesn't enter into it. — Isaac
building Russia into something better so that it's less likely to break the armistice over time — Isaac
Too open and personal? — Amity
I responded to what I felt was a real struggle in understanding and coping. — Amity
Negotiation about what, though? It's relatively easy to use the pronouns someone wants you to. It's a bit harder to see someone as the gender on a gut level if they identify with if they look or act stereotypically otherwise. I think those are behavioural commitments though. — fdrake
I do think it's very unlikely that we could get, even in principle, a list that boils down who counts as a man or a woman without also constructing an incomplete stereotype of the role - in terms of behaviour, attitudes, social standings etc. And we'd already know that behaving in accord with a stereotype is neither necessary nor sufficient for being the type of being that stereotype is associated with. — fdrake
parents' observations — Moliere
correctness conditions — fdrake
I don't think there's anything stopping us each having our own narratives and just thrashing it out when they clash. I just don't think it's a very good idea, and that requires a little stability, some predictability — Isaac
it can't be a one-way system where Bob has a fully formed narrative in his head which he'd like other people to act in accordance with, but in interacting with Bob, Alice's own narrative must be discarded — Isaac
The facts underdetermine the theory — Isaac
to tell that story we have to understand each other, we have to have a shared set of meanings for the words we use, including 'woman'. Otherwise, I can't hear your story because I don't know what you mean by anything you say. — Isaac
listening to another's story — Moliere
Moreover, I, on my side, require of every writer, first or last, a simple and sincere account of his own life, and not merely what he has heard of other men’s lives; some such account as he would send to his kindred from a distant land; for if he has lived sincerely, it must have been in a distant land to me. — Thoreau
If even responding to such childishness makes me petty too, as you’re implying, so be it. But I don’t initiate these things. — Mikie
Sad to say, you’re as petty a member as they come. — Mikie
When I think "taking your word" I guess I mean I believe it. — Moliere
when it comes to someone's basic identity that they live with I'd say we take people's word for it almost always — Moliere
I agree with everything you've said there — Janus
I think what I've found is that it's far too easy to believe you have judged another's self-awareness when there's something missed. — Moliere
self-knowledge isn't exactly history — Moliere
But I don't think that identity-talk relies upon a notion of a private language as much as it relies upon a standpoint of some kind, which is much more defensible than a full-blown Subject. — Moliere
In terms of how we converse people will know more about themselves than you know about them because they've been around themselves the whole time — Moliere
the simple fact that people will be better able to construct a story about themselves than strangers who know nothing about them. — Moliere
even though all identity is a kind of performance that doesn't make it false -- or, rather, the truth and falsity isn't as relevant as the significance of one's identity — Moliere
What I don't believe for a moment, is that a) some constitution of this mental goings on is correct, immutable and sacred, and b) known only to you and not picked off the shelf of publicly available models associated with the word you choose.
I don't believe (a) because we see too much the same mental goings on interpreted as different constructions by the same people at different times. We're wildly unfaithful even to our own models and we've absolutely no better idea what's going on than the person sat next to us.
I don't believe (b) because we don't just pick random words to describe these 'identities', we pick words we've learnt, and we can only have learnt those words from a community of language users, who must, therefore, know what the word means, which means, by definition, you could be wrong. — Isaac
It seems we part company here, as I don't believe our interest in sex is entirely down to its reproductive function. — Janus
I agree that the existence of sex in the first place is down to reproductive function, but that is almost tautologically, and hence trivially, true — Janus
I think we also agree that sexual desire is in part hormonal and in part conditioned by socio-cultural influences. — Janus
We know you read my post, since you replied to it — Banno
with the advent of more effective contraception the reproduction and the desire for sex are separable — Janus
It seems likely that some have an instinctive desire for children and others not. — Janus
It seems you are saying that the reproduction part (given safe and effective contraceptive and/ or abortive methods) is optional — Janus
maybe you're like a dark cloud that says it's going to rain — frank
what we think the world would say if it could talk. — frank
I think you just replaced beliefs that are just sitting there, to a model that's just sitting there. — frank