Gender is a social construct, transgender is a social construct, biology is not Just to be clear … I am interested in this from an anthropological and psychological perspective. The question can be asked about whether or not someone may or may not be regarded as a ‘philosopher,’ an ‘artist’ or some other such title/label/whatever.
I have strong opinions about who I would call and artist just like I would about what I would call art. I am quite willing and open to except that other people will undoubtedly use these terms differently to me and that at the end of the day is doesn’t really matter as long as we understand each other enough not to degrade, belittle or abuse one another (with exceptions therein too of course!).
Should I care is someone calls themselves ‘gay’ or ‘Brian’? I have no reason to care therefore the ‘should’ is irrelevant to me. If someone ‘demands’ that I address them as such and such I am far less likely to comply because I have certain ‘anarchistic’ tendencies - it is more about the context than the ‘demand’/‘request’.
Note: I do find it peculiar how some people ‘request’ somethings and then act ‘abused’ when such a ‘request’ is denied. If something is genuinely ‘requested’ it should be done so with the expectation of a refusal (depending on the request and the explanation of the person being asked of).
It depends and there are exceptions. That just about sums up reasonable social interactions I think.