But I think these questions are nutso. — Jeremy Murray
That's fine, well, odd, if not disturbing, since you claim to be a professional who works with children. Or was that someone else?
The majority of the world, and all reputable science acknowledges the brain is not developed until well beyond adolescence and so children cannot be trusted to decide what's best for themselves or what they think they know. They are highly malleable, easily influenced, and can be led to believe anything. This is common knowledge and codified legal fact everywhere on Earth, which is why children are not legal adults until the age of ~18. Just for some real world context that cares not about your outlying and atypical opinion.
Suggesting a young child does not and cannot intimately and deeply know what sexuality or race is, was more of a statement. A common sense statement. The literal farthest thing from "nutso", since it is in fact normal, widely-held belief. If you cannot understand basic human nature, you have no business working with any child anywhere. Period. Sure, a young person can get aroused by human contact and feel "different" per release of hormones and various signals the brain sends to the body, that's normal. Sure, you can tell that your skin is one color and that another person's might be a different color. But these are surface level,
beginnings of understanding what it means to be human,
not indicative of anything, let alone set in stone just because you've been led to believe they prove something absolutely that will be inherent to the person's entire adult life.
It's really hard to respond to this. — AmadeusD
Then don't. The world and intelligent people are in charge and will decide what's best for children when adults fail to. You can bet your life on that.
Furthermore, just because you don't like, agree with, or understand something doesn't mean it's "crap",
especially when it's a widely held belief the majority of the world holds and science, morals, and basic cultural and societal fabric supports and stands behind.
You're simply mistaken. It's not that big a deal, it happens to everyone at some point in life.
No. I can't understand why you're trying to talk about things I haven't said. — AmadeusD
I didn't "try" to talk about anything. I
successfully asked a question. Not a statement-within-a-question, a simple question. A
highly-relevant question that acknowledges common patterns of discrimination and prejudice toward people who are diverse or atypical in tone of voice or physical structure—surface-level, superficial traits that commonly result in illegitimate, ill-formed, and myopic opinion-heavy "determinations" of "feminine" vs. "masculine." Your answer was no. Moving on.
He is much more 'whimsical'. And that is feminine. — AmadeusD
And? He's a kid. Kids grow up. You can't predict a human beings entire life based on the first few years. Not for certain. So he likes expressing himself. Maybe he'll be the next rock star or something. You don't know. No one does. So don't act like you do.
I didn't mention him being bullied. I actually didn't mention any of this. — AmadeusD
No one said you did. Simply these are common traits that occur in children who act differently than their peers. Sometimes bullying/ostracization is
because they are different, other times it's just what happens that
leads to one becoming and acting differently as a coping strategy. This is basic psychology. I notice you don't say "he's not", which leads one to believe, perhaps I was correct, and if so, you should listen to people who are correct about topics and persons they seem to have no way of knowing anything about personally. That's called wisdom.
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I understand it's a tough, personal topic. None of my business. Nothing to discuss with a stranger in front of more strangers. You don't have to reply. Still, this post must be posted so as to educate and reach as many as possible who might be reading who have the same misunderstandings as you, even if such education fails to reach you yourself. If at least two people discover the truth and are now free from falsehood, when one might not, that's still a win for humanity and all that is good, right, and proper.