Guys and gals, go for it or work away? Well, here I must ask for your apology as I certainly either lacked cultural relativism or at the very least was haughty enough to assume that you were from a western culture, perhaps the latter a good thing in that you are able to articulate yourself rather well enough for the above-mentioned to escape my original assessment. — TimeLine
That's quite an argument to make that one must be from another culture to see things differently. I have lived in Europe for about 8 years and grant that experience as some sort of foundation where this thread is build on. But, if you want to really catch my drift, I have found that people who stay together are actually happier together contrary to the beliefs implicitly presented here.
I also said that your position could even be enviable - I love to garden and have many various roses and flowers that I cultivate as well as fruits and herbs - but it does not change the fact that Candide had to go through a substantial amount of absurdity to realise the point of having a garden. — TimeLine
Yea, that's the opportunity cost you forgo when living alone as opposed to with someone, who can help share the expenses.
Why, exactly, can you not take care of your mother and live on your own? If you had ambition, if you wanted to make something of yourself, why can you not fulfil your dreams and help her at the same time? — TimeLine
That was my original attempt with trying to integrate into society (through joining the military). In that process, which might seem
strange harsh but one that I would desire for any of my offspring I found where I stand relative to most of my peers in society. I'm not a guy that likes being controlled or put into controlled settings, that stuff sets me off.
It is your dependence and ultimately that can weaken you in the long-term. — TimeLine
I would actually argue otherwise that my mother is dependent more on me emotionally; but, I don't want to overpsychologize the matter.
There is no justification for shirking away from the world and to say you will happily do so is no different to someone who witnessed a crime and instead pretended that they never saw anything. You are afraid to live and that means you do not love life. If you did, if you really understand how magnificent it actually is, you would fight against injustice, you would be passionate, you will take risks because you will not shrivel at the face of the ignorant but come face to face with it until they shrivel. — TimeLine
I appreciate your compassion on the matter and as a Stoic (moreso than a Buddhist as being a Buddhist in the West is very hard to adjust to) I am trying to always be more compassionate. That's not an easy task and I envy those who can be compassionate just for the virtue of being compassionate.
I am all for people sharing their personal stories and please do not assume I am attacking you. If you see what I say, if you don't, there is not much I can do. But I believe you are highly intelligent and the world - the world you understand to be wrong - needs people like you to take responsibility so that if you are as you say here: — TimeLine
Not at all, the worst judgement has already been passed, which was inevitable by a certain member and I know that in some minds I might appear as pathetic or a loser; but, that has yet to bother me in any way.