I constantly second-guess myself. — Truth Seeker
I often wish I had made different choices than the ones I made — Truth Seeker
What is the best way to make choices? — Truth Seeker
How would one assess whether to have an abortion or not? — Truth Seeker
This happens because I am haunted by previous errors. If I had known how things would turn out, I would have chosen differently.Do you know why this happens? Are you haunted by previous errors? — Tom Storm
I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder on the 5th of March 1998. My parents told me to ignore the psychiatrist and not take the prescribed medications. I didn't listen to my parents. I trusted my psychiatrist and took the prescribed medications. 27 years and 3 months later, I am still struggling with depression and all the side-effects of the prescribed medications. I have gone from 65 kg to 98 kg as my medication causes weight gain. My mental illness has ruined my physical health, education, career and relationships. I often wonder how my life would be if I had listened to my parents instead of my psychiatrist.What would be an example of this? — Tom Storm
All of them and many more.Is it things like having children, getting married, or deciding where to live? — Tom Storm
Is this one you are mulling over or a hypothetical? — Tom Storm
There are factors involved when making choices and these are often a matter of personal preference. — kindred
How would I know what personal preference I should have? — Truth Seeker
In terms of suicide of why you should stay alive it breaks down to practicality and it’s something out of my remit to advise on personal choices and circumstances. — kindred
‘Do you remember—’
‘I have a … very good memory, thank you.’
‘Do you ever wonder what life would have been like if you’d said yes?’ said Ridcully.
‘No.’
‘I suppose we’d have settled down, had children, grandchildren, that sort of thing …’
Granny shrugged. It was the sort of thing romantic idiots said. But there was something in the air tonight …
‘What about the fire?’ she said.
‘What fire?’
‘Swept through our house just after we were married. Killed us both.’
‘What fire? I don’t know anything about any fire?’
Granny turned around.
‘Of course not! It didn’t happen. But the point is, it might have happened. You can’t say “if this didn’t happen then that would have happened” because you don’t know everything that might have happened. You might think something’d be good, but for all you know it could have turned out horrible. You can’t say “If only I’d …” because you could be wishing for anything. The point is, you’ll never know. You’ve gone past. So there’s no use thinking about it. So I don’t.’ — Terry Pratchet
More likely, you would be equally discontent but with a different set of issues. — Banno
Wouldn't it have been better if I had never existed at all? — Truth Seeker
I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder on the 5th of March 1998. My parents told me to ignore the psychiatrist and not take the prescribed medications. I didn't listen to my parents. I trusted my psychiatrist and took the prescribed medications. 27 years and 3 months later, I am still struggling with depression and all the side-effects of the prescribed medications. I have gone from 65 kg to 98 kg as my medication causes weight gain. My mental illness has ruined my physical health, education, career and relationships. I often wonder how my life would be if I had listened to my parents instead of my psychiatrist. — Truth Seeker
I too wonder what life could have been had i not made this terrible choice. — hypericin
Seems to me that the key is other people. Keep reaching out. And keep in mind that while you don't know what will happen next, sometimes things get better.
You are welcome to PM me. — Banno
While freedom is a curse, it is also life's greatest blessing, and I say this with total sincerity. Llfe truly wouldn't be living without freedom.
Much more to be said, but what do you think of that so far? — hypericin
I agree because I can't change the past. Thank you for sharing your experience and for your advice. I am exercising daily but it is hard. I have a healthy diet but my problem is that my medication causes weight gain. I am also trying to learn computer programming which I find hard because of my depression and because of my age. I am 47.you are where you are and decisions going forward are the only ones that matter. — Malcolm Parry
I have come through life almost scar free and I have lead an ordinary life but an enjoyable one. — Malcolm Parry
Exactly. If you had access to more information you would have chosen differently. So the question is, could it have been at all possible for you to have that information when making your decision? If not, then you can't blame yourself. You made the best possible decision given the information you had at that moment. Now, we could talk about who might be to blame, if anyone, for your limited access to information (and it could be you that is to blame if you chose to live in a bubble) that would have allowed you to make a more informed decision, but that is a different topic.This happens because I am haunted by previous errors. If I had known how things would turn out, I would have chosen differently. — Truth Seeker
Only if you were Caligula, Hitler or Stalin. But even then, every human is an example of the variety humans come in and permits us to bear witness the scope of human experience and existence that exists.Wouldn't it have been better if I had never existed at all? — Truth Seeker
You made the best possible decision given the information you had at that moment. — Harry Hindu
I meant whether my nonexistence would have been better for me, compared to the life I have lived so far, which has been mostly suffering. Also, my nonexistence would have prevented all of my negative and positive impacts on others and the world e.g. ecological footprint. I am a Vegan, Egalitarian, Sentientist.Only if you were Caligula, Hitler or Stalin. — Harry Hindu
I struggle to make choices. I constantly second-guess myself. I often wish I had made different choices than the ones I made. What is the best way to make choices?
I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder on the 5th of March 1998. My parents told me to ignore the psychiatrist and not take the prescribed medications. I didn't listen to my parents. I trusted my psychiatrist and took the prescribed medications. 27 years and 3 months later, I am still struggling with depression and all the side-effects of the prescribed medications. I have gone from 65 kg to 98 kg as my medication causes weight gain. My mental illness has ruined my physical health, education, career and relationships. I often wonder how my life would be if I had listened to my parents instead of my psychiatrist. — Truth Seeker
by making choices that eliminate the worst outcome — LuckyR
A book that might help, "Prudence: Choose Confidently, Live Boldly." — Leontiskos
What do you see as your mistake in this instance? What is the thing you wish you had done differently? — Leontiskos
I wish I had listened to my parents instead of listening to my psychiatrist. Sadly, I can't change the past. — Truth Seeker
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