If both of you are reasonable and tolerant, you will go your separate ways and not think too poorly of the other person. Different premises entail different conclusions. I'm free to choose which premises I find most appropriate, and so are you, and there's nothing I can do to change your mind unless you agree to play by the rules of discourse that I agree to play by. All of our beliefs stem from an inner feeling of conviction that some particular thing is the way it seems to be, and the way things seem to be can vary wildly between people.

One thing that might prove helpful to remember is that people generally don't know why they do things. They contrive reasons after the fact, but fundamentally it is the passions that run the show. This explains why Nietzsche saw philosophy as auto-biography, for the passions determine the presuppositions which determine the conclusions. It's perspectivism - philosophy emerges from a person as a flower does from its stem. It's very much so a growth - almost like an organ - and sometimes it grows cancerous and it has to be cut off.

Is one side of the argument right or neither? Can both be equally rational and informed? — Andrew4Handel

I think it has less to do with who is right and who is wrong and more to do with who has the better rhetorical skills, who intimidates more, who has the capacity to change minds with symbols, who can dazzle the mind, etc. Pure, unadulterated truth is nowhere to be found.

If both of you are reasonable and tolerant, you will go your separate ways and not think too poorly of the other person — darthbarracuda

Good.

Why can neither person change the other persons mind? — Andrew4Handel

Time, not the best argument you have, will change the other person's mind. If, at the moment, you have satisfied yourself with your own argument, then you've done your job. Walk away in peace.

I suppose evidence will eventually prove a point.

It seems to me if both sides were agnostic then they could agree on uncertainty but that is not usually how it goes. It seems like people enjoy dichotomies and taking sides.

I feel that I would change my mind if someone gave me a new persuasive argument. But I do feel that the opposing side of the argument sometimes does not accept how firm your own convictions are and really are just being dismissive.
Certain positions are more trendy or contemporary so that if you are not in a popular paradigm your are more easily dismissed

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One thing that might prove helpful to remember is that people generally don't know why they do things. — darthbarracuda

I am friendly towards the idea of unconscious/subconscious dynamics. But they are hard to tackle because they are not immediately knowable.
It could be a lengthy diversion from a debates propositions to explore how your temperament and or relationship with your father formed your ideological leanings.

I think questioning your own beliefs can lead to self-doubt but this self-doubt may be unwarranted if you have a really sound argument.

I think it has less to do with who is right and who is wrong and more to do with who has the better rhetorical skills, who intimidates more, who has the capacity to change minds with symbols, who can dazzle the mind, etc. Pure, unadulterated truth is nowhere to be found. — darthbarracuda

Good points :up:

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When two people fundamentally disagree on an issue and will not back down where do you go from there? — Andrew4Handel

That's why I think fatigue is a good thing. Eventually we all get tired. The fighting can't go on forever.

Boredom may be even better.

Arguments can be resolved by force I suppose. I think that is the case with gay rights and abortion legislation. I think force might be better than an impasse. But by force I don't man violence but rather pushing your agenda towards being realised rather than continuing arguing and bickering.

I know this sounds extreme but I think arguing can just lead to apathy and fatalism.I think some people hide behind progress and force made on their behalf.

The point is I don't want to be governed by someone else's agenda that I disagree with.But resorting to non verbal action would only happen if it seemed like a necessity.

For example say people disagree on gods existence I don't think society should favour either position and focus on just one metaphysics or philosophy. I think society should be secular but in a pluralistic way where no one is imposed upon by another's dogmas and children have access to a wide palate of ideas.

When two people fundamentally disagree on an issue and will not back down where do you go from there? — Andrew4Handel

The nearest gun store?

I have never seen one of those in the UK.

What is puzzling me about an impasse is why it can't intellectually be resolved.

Of course I think I am usually in the right and open minded.

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The answer to the question "How do you get out of an Impasse?"



Iocaine, i.e. step outside the issue. What they call, in soccer, switching fields.

If the issue is value based then try and pinpoint the value differences underlying the disagreement. Then lay out your arguments for your value system and why you think your value grounding is better than the other. Dont dismiss the other other person's points or point validity irregardless of how far fetched they sounds. I definitely think discussion ettiquette matters because it helps foster the discussion and repel defensiveness, ad hominem, thought rigidity and reactivity, things that maintain an impasse.

If the issue is empirically based or scientific, lay out the evidence. Make sure to question contradictions in the opposing interpretation of the evidence, keeping in mind the discussion ettiquette. And that's it really I think

I think that's it's rarely, if ever, a purely intellectual matter. It's almost inescapably a psychological matter too. If you understand the psychology, then you go some ways to answering your question.

"How do you get out of an Impasse?"

If it is an impasse, then you cannot get out of it.

"When two people fundamentally disagree on an issue and will not back down where do you go from there?"

Somebody gets hurt.

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When two people fundamentally disagree on an issue and will not back down where do you go from there? — Andrew4Handel

Why should there be any way out of an impasse? If two people fundamentally disagree, then they disagree and there probably won't be any change in either persons opinion, until the facts of the matter change.

I hate Trump. You love Trump. We are going to maintain our views until something totally new and unexpected is revealed about Trump (like, he is able to bring peace and justice to the Middle East or orders the Statue of Liberty and the Golden Gate Bridge destroyed).

Why can neither person change the other persons mind?

a. Neither of you has a compelling case for your own view
b. Both of you would rather die than agree with the other one.

Is one side of the argument right or neither? Can both be equally rational and informed?

Of course one side or both can be right or wrong and both can be equally rational and informed. Actually, this is probably the state most impasses exist in. So why don't they agree?

Because people can be obstinate, territorial, egotistical, rigid, and all sorts of other splendid things. "I said the sky is red, and just because you say it is blue is absolutely no reason whatsoever for me to grant that you are right." A synonym for 'impasse' -- deadlock -- gets at the situation better, perhaps. The two sides are locked into their positions.

What do you mean by "resolved"? — tim wood

Find a solution for.

Or sway the argument predominantly towards one side.

When two people fundamentally disagree on an issue and will not back down where do you go from there? — Andrew4Handel

At some point you have to agree to disagree. It doesn't imply fault or loss on one side or the other, it just means that as 'thinkers' have to know that the likelihood of us not agreeing, is just as likely as us agreeing.

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They can both be right if they're using different "Frames" (i.e. looking at the situation from different perspectives, with differing central values).

Or: one of them must be right and one of them wrong if they're both using the same Frame. And that can be for various reasons (mistake in reasoning, misinformed, poor perception, stupid, etc.).

On a psychological note, I don't think we can expect people to change their mind on the strength of one argument (not unless it's a problem amenable to a slam-dunk solution, which most things people argue about aren't). We're all building a model of the world as we go, and often people have to chew things over and adjust their model in private before they'll openly accept something. That's why it's a bit churlish to press the advantage too much in argument. A bit of light mockery is ok, but, being kind, we have to give people a bit of space to change their minds.

The impasse is no different to a dilemma, if it can be resolved it does not exist.

The deterministic nature of reality ensures that there are neither dilemmas nor impasses, only the appearance of such. Which is very nice of Determinism, as it gives us something to talk about and lots to do to pass the time.

I have just found a nice quote from Derrida.

"A decision that did not go through the ordeal of the undecidable would not be a free decision, it would only be the programmable application or unfolding of a calculable process"

So I suppose an excessively deterministic attitude could lead to an impasse.

I hate Trump. You love Trump — Bitter Crank

I neither hate nor love Trump. I suppose taking both extreme positions could lead to an impasse.

Firsty some people are unreasonable. Second some people are willing to negotiate but have to take a stance on certian issues. Also some people are selfish and make decisions only reguarding themselves, so a more considerate person would find them annoying.

I suppose taking both extreme positions could lead to an impasse. — Andrew4Handel

Impasses might happen between two wishy-washy people, but it's more likely to happen between people with very strong beliefs and opinions. In any case, loving or hating Trump was just an example--I intensely dislike the man, but I had no idea what your opinion was (until you said so, above).

Impasses, by definition, occur when there is no practical, politically acceptable, personally acceptable compromise on a polarized issue. The US and the USSR were able to conclude some treaties on nuclear weapons because both sides recognized that their risks were far greater than their benefits. I doubt very much if North Korea will hand over it's nuclear bombs and nuclear bomb-making equipment. We have reached an impasse. Closing down their bomb testing field just means that they have now learned how to make bombs and don't need to test the technology again.

The US and the USSR, now the Russian Federation, have not been able to eliminate their weapons systems because neither country wants to give up the significant leverage derived from possessing a fleet of nuclear arms bearing submarines and missiles. India and Pakistan aren't going to give up their weapons either. Neither will Israel. Having a stock of nuclear weapons is one of the things that keeps Israel in business. Their enemies do not have nuclear weapons, so far.

Firsty some people are unreasonable. — SherlockH

Would you like a glass of water?

Second some people are willing to negotiate but have to take a stance on certian issues. — SherlockH

I'll get you a glass of water in exchange for a slice of pie, although I must insist that John Lennon was the best Beatle.

Also some people are selfish and make decisions only reguarding themselves, so a more considerate person would find them annoying. — SherlockH

On second thought, forget the water, and I'll be taking that pie.