Anyone have an idea in regards to a mature, 'adult' book on the topic of sex; most media or 'discussions' on the subject generally being porn or adolescent immaturity, prefably in regards to a marriage or mature relationship, rather than just "hooking up".

I've been reading Kama Sutra, and find it interesting, but some of it's a little dated and culturally irrelevant; the same with other books on the subjects of sex, relationships, marriage, such as "Married Love".

From every serious cultural perspective no matter the 'era' or the 'religious' or other social or legal context, the reality of marital problems and conflicts is more or less well-documented; some of overly 'rosey' views on marriage which enter popular cultural discouse may be holdovers from Rosseau or 'romanticism', however I've seen little in the way of any more 'serious' discussion on the topic which attempts to negate the reality of marital problems conficts (these, of course were a recurring them even in the Bible, whether "Old" or "New Testament", however in churches they often seem to be overlooked or ignored, because the 'gritter' side of things isn't as easily sellible or marketable".

As far 'philosophy' behind other topics or ideas, such as 'love at first sight', this might be true in the case of some couples, however then it will end up veering into strange philosophical territory (e.x. if love at first site is or was 'real', does ths hint at determinism or fatalism, or rather does free will, or an individual choice of whom and how to love play a factor in it)?

It seems quite a few people today are using the realities of marital or parenting problems to give up on the ideals of marriage or relationships entirely (e.x. such as the silly "red pill / blue pill" dichtomies and whatnot which is making rounds on social media, and something of a silly strawman to begin with),

Realistically I don't believe that everyone needs to or necessarily "should" marry and/or have children, particuarily if they are extremely immature and emotionally stunted and will just end up being equally 'miserable' together (even the Bible, in the New Testamtent, prior to its incorporation into Catholic Dogma, Paul mentioned that not all men necessarily should marry, for example). I do find that giving up or attacking the ideal entirely is something of an overly nihlistic view, and that some couples have managed to be marred or in a relationship without serious conflicts and self-induced misery, the likes of what one might laugh at on "Jerry Springer" or "Maury".

Thoughts?

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As far as the "sacredness" of marriage, from a historical and legal perspective, it isn't 'sacred', nor is every marriage equally 'happy', the legal involvement in marriage is primarily a pragmatic thing which benefitis the state in regards to disputes, such as over property and child custody, and prevents more barbaric practices and behaviors such as 'blood feuds' and things which may in theory have proceed it; "sacredness" is in the domain of the churches, families, martial vows, and so on.

From a historical perspective, monogamous marriage is associated with civilization and 1st world countries, regardless of any specific "religion" or religious involvement in the matter, such as in the context of various legal and/or philosophical treastises on civilizations and their evolultion - while 'polygamy' is associated with 3rd world countries and living conditions, sometimes also associted with ills such as "child marriage", "marital rape", and archaic and primitive things of that nature.