There's no accounting for what some conservatives and Christian pastors might say. You have to winnow and glean where and as best you can, in their fields. And it's sad but true that some should be not listened to.

winnow and glean? As in decipher what is true and not true from what they say?

or

work where you can find work?

In general i think working diligently daily is better for family than working hard everyday (suffering).


I assume that we agree somewhat?

Working smart is always the better. Not generally taught anywhere except in the schools of experience and hard knocks, or by wise and caring parents, which are not so numerous.

true.

The first mistake is listening to a conservative or a Pastor.

I think the basic principle is don’t finger point. Blaming others is a poor focus as you cannot generally change people.

Self reflection is a reasonably good piece of advice as were prone to shift blame and responsibility. I doubt they preach not to plan.

People who are ignorant of their ignorance believe that trying harder is the only solution. But no matter how hard they try they keep failing because they lack knowledge. Then they burn out, blame themselves, and give up. Leading to more and more feelings of inferiority and hate. Will-power is very limited, utilize it primarily to learn and increase knowledge. Then you can work smarter not harder. Study information online for free. Start with something you're already interested in because time flies when you're having fun. Talk to everyone and absorb everything. Question everything, especially your own assumptions. Blow your own mind. Utilize one of the greatest pieces of technology in existence, the human brain. You are currently a seed full of potential, who will one day bloom into a god.