if something threatens your life and you desire not to suffer then you are supposed to be content with the situation and accept your fate — leo
it could be possible to progressively change the way things are to get to a state where all of our desires are met. — leo
Indeed it is possible to desire things and not suffer from not getting them, if we are already content with the way things are. Buddhism understands that, and that's why it says the root of suffering is not desire, but attachment to desire. However not being attached to desire means not being attached to life itself, if something threatens your life and you desire not to suffer then you are supposed to be content with the situation and accept your fate. If someone steals from you or kill your loved ones you are supposed to not be attached to things or to your loved ones in order not to suffer. And that's something most of us will not accept. I see being detached from our desires as giving up on life itself, and letting others decide our life for us. As long as no one bothers us we can live that way, but if some natural phenomenon or someone attacks us we are at their mercy, and we leave our fate in their hands. — leo
So does that mean that being attached to life necessarily implies suffering? No, because there is a possibility Buddhism hasn't taken into account. The way things are, all of our desires cannot be met, some are mutually incompatible, which leads to suffering. The key point is, "the way things are". The way things are now, suffering is inevitable. However things change, through our actions, through what we do. Buddhism gives up on life and does not attempt to change the way things are, yet in principle it could be possible to progressively change the way things are to get to a state where all of our desires are met. There is no proof that this is impossible. Desires aren't set in stone, and neither are beliefs, both change. In principle it could be possible to attain a utopia, in which we would all live in harmony in such a way that no one suffers. — leo
And even if one doesn't ascribe to the view that such a utopia is possible, at least many can already agree that we can do better to reduce suffering in the world. I see it as important to realize that Buddhism does not provide the only way to overcome suffering. In a way the solution of Buddhism is to give up on life, but that's not the only solution, we don't have to give up on life. — leo
I wouldn’t say we ‘clashed’ on this in the past, more like we disagreed, in the end I want the truth to come out I never try to impose my ideas onto others, it’s simply when I’m convinced that I see something that the other side doesn’t see that I become more persistent, but even if the other side still disagrees after all my efforts I don’t keep ill feelings, maybe simply a little sadness that we couldn’t come to agree, sometimes there are things we simply aren’t ready yet to understand, this counts for others but this counts for me too, I don’t claim to have reached the whole truth but I believe I’m closer to it than I used to be. — leo
I disagree that there can be no life without loss. Loss is an interpretation, you can be far from someone and still feel connected to them, feel that you haven’t lost them. You can see death as a passage rather than the end, and consider that you are still connected to your loved ones who passed away and that you will see them again. Seeing things that way you don’t have to see loss in life, only change. — leo
Also I see desire and suffering as more fundamental than loss, since for instance if one doesn’t desire anything there is no life and thus no loss. — leo
I’m fine with that, and I do enjoy these discussions with you. They are both respectful and challenging. — Possibility
But you can’t say that we haven’t lost something here - we’re just not suffering from that loss, because we recognise that there is more to our loved one than the physical or temporal aspects we’ve lost. And we have lost those aspects of them - you can call it change, which refers to either loss or pain, or both, but I see it as roughly the same awareness. Denying the loss is denying that they had a physical or temporal aspect at all, which I don’t believe is being honest with ourselves. But I don’t think we’re that far from understanding each other here. — Possibility
This is where we differ, because I consider an experience of loss/lack to be fundamental not just to life, but to existence - to all forms of interaction in the universe. I pair loss/lack because they refer to the same basic sense of incompletion (although loss has a temporal aspect). Without interaction, there can be no loss, but there is loss without desire and without life. There is no desire without an experience of lack, however. — Possibility
What are the difference between constructive, deconstructive/reconstructive and destructive suffering? — Spirit12
Like if we are doing push up vs being forced to do pushup — Spirit12
So we might say, in order to not suffer we have to desire nothing. But if we desire nothing then we do nothing, and we do not live. Does that mean that suffering is inextricably linked with life? No, because we haven't yet proven that desiring something necessarily implies suffering. — leo
I see being detached from our desires as giving up on life itself, and letting others decide our life for us. As long as no one bothers us we can live that way, but if some natural phenomenon or someone attacks us we are at their mercy, and we leave our fate in their hands. — leo
Suffering has a strong linear relationship with unfulfilled desire. However this is merely mental suffering and is relatively harmless compared to other forms of suffering: Hunger, pain and fear. — ovdtogt
That's rather jumping to conclusions, that desire equates with life itself. Why does this conclusion seem correct to you? — Wallows
I said that desiring nothing implies doing nothing, but maybe that’s mistaken. Maybe it’s possible to be in some sort of free state where we can experience change without actually desiring anything because we already have what we desire. — leo
I see it as important to realize that Buddhism does not provide the only way to overcome suffering. In a way the solution of Buddhism is to give up on life, but that's not the only solution, we don't have to give up on life. — leo
However not being attached to desire means not being attached to life itself, if something threatens your life and you desire not to suffer then you are supposed to be content with the situation and accept your fate. — leo
Sure it's important to keep in mind that there are unconscious desires (which may be uncovered), thanks for pointing that out, but a Buddhist attempts to be detached from all desires, not just the conscious ones, so let's assume that I refer to all desires including the unconscious ones when I talk of "being detached from our desires". — leo
I don't see a fundamental distinction between between need and desire. I would say needs are a subset of desires. Needs are those desires that we believe we have to fulfill or else we will lose something important, whereas other desires could be seen as "nice to have" if they are fulfilled. — leo
Regarding your third point, if I understand you correctly, yes clearly there are desires that lead us down paths of suffering. As I mentioned in the first post some desires are incompatible, for instance if person A desires to hurt person B and person B doesn't desire to be hurt then both desires cannot be fulfilled. But it would be extremely premature to give up based on this sort of observation, because as I mentioned our desires aren't set in stone, many of them change throughout our life, through understanding the world and ourselves we can come to see which ones are worth pursuing and which should be abandoned, our beliefs can change too, so in principle it could be possible to reach a state where all people come to have mutually compatible desires that can be fulfilled. — leo
Sure, but any change can be interpreted as a loss. The night can be interpreted as a loss of the Sun, the day can be interpreted as a loss of the night sky, the absence of happiness can be interpreted as a loss of happiness, the presence of happiness can be interpreted as a loss of however it is we felt beforehand. Even the loss of suffering can be interpreted as a loss. Talking of loss this way is simply talking of change. Usually we refer to loss as something leading to suffering, but equating loss with change misses that negative aspect of loss. — leo
When loss is equated with change I agree that change is fundamental to existence, there is no existence without change.
But I’m not certain that there can be change without desire and without life. That’s the view of physicalism, which assumes that everything that exists behaves according to physical laws, that these laws were not created by a being and that nothing can break these laws, but I disagree with that view for various reasons. It is possible that there is no existence without at least a being, that existence and being necessarily go together. It makes more sense than saying that somehow for unexplainable reasons being and consciousness arose from dead particles that behave according to unchanging laws which are there for no reason at all. — leo
So you believe choice exists within suffering. In the cases where one does not have choice, is a slave to playing out the pain, then this is truly suffering.
Complaining at your arms getting stronger in a place where you have choice not to do pushups is not suffering.
What think you of will or agency and how much agency do different people have? Do we all have opportunity of choice? — Spirit12
life: a replicating chemical reaction. — ovdtogt
More like a self-replicating system of interacting chemical reactions. — Possibility
I think it’s very much dependent on awareness of choice. We can’t always choose our circumstances or what happens to us, but as human beings we always have the capacity to choose how we respond to each interaction - if only we were fully aware of that capacity. I think we suffer from ignorance, isolation and exclusion in this respect, more than we suffer from pain, loss or humiliation. — Possibility
This raise question, can a happy man be suffering? — Spirit12
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