I read "self-esteem" to be less about image and more about personal confidence and motivation here, a sort of doing, living or habit. — TheWillowOfDarkness
Why is it eminently sensible? Because life is hard, and people who do not take responsibility for their own well-being and self-support are likely to find themselves in various unenviable positions later on in life when mother is no longer alive, and when one is getting a bit old to do entry level work. — Bitter Crank
Question isn't, after all, a mentally deficient ward of the state. He wants to earn a PhD in philosophy. — Bitter Crank
Is Thorongil being a dick for outlining the unpleasant realities of pursuing a PhD? — Bitter Crank
All this is to say you may tell me the best way to parent when you have some inkling what it entails. — Hanover
I recognize desires as per the Buddhists as the source of suffering. This is a synthetic a priori truth that all sentient beings ought realize.
Living with mom isn't a bad thing and never was. Society imposed some fictitious rule on people that "man" ought move ought from "mother". I suspect this has to do with capitalism, individualism, and consumerism, along with a plethora of unrestricted wants and desires from the daughter or son spewing out.
I am not needy for anyone. I just appreciate the advice and thoughts of this community.
I do not see myself ever having a wife, although the thoughts do return and bother me on the subject. Still thinking if I can have a wife with my current lifestyle or even if I realize the dreams in the OP.
Life is about getting through it. Schopenhauer can expand on that for you. — Question
I am aware of that and I am confident that the OP will pursue a life of philosophy whether academically or independently, but what I got from his post was a lack of confidence in himself. Once he breaks that barrier and challenges himself by being courageous enough to take risks, his greater ambitions will come to fruition. The first risk is living on his own for a while.Be careful - seeming lack of ambition can be the mask for the greatest of ambitions. The thing with great ambitions (unlike puny ambitions) is that they cannot be fulfilled very easily (and it's stupid to try when failure is guaranteed), so people having them, often seem to be doing nothing from the outside - not even attempting to do something. — Agustino
Who cares? Really, who cares? Once you realise that no one cares, not even you, you can renounce whatsoever is troubling you. Really, if you never leave the walls of your house, until you die, has your life been wasted? Absolutely not - when you die, you die, that's the end, doesn't matter that you were President or you were the beggar on the corner of the street. Relax! The real secret is that only the man or woman who has completely renounced winning the world, only that man or woman can actually turn around and win it - everyone else has already lost before they've even tried. Their ambition has killed them. Only those who have conquered their ambitions can fulfil them - it's a paradox, but it is true. — Agustino
Yes, but in order to be more than that worm, you have to accept the possibility of being that worm. Only when fear of being that worm has been overcome - only then are you free to be anything more than that worm. Until that has been overcome - you'll always be that worm. I despise worms too :) but worms aren't created by actions and outward circumstances. Worms are created by inner disposition.This is the most horrifying thing I have read in a very long time. Quite literally. Though I understand your point [if it is attempting to speak of transcendence], the way that you have explained it in light of referencing Osho is just all wrong. You become that very 'worm' that Kierkegaard despises, as do I. — TimeLine
Renouncing is not equivalent to giving up on who one is - I never renounce who I am, I renounce outward expectations of anything. I don't renounce my values. I don't change my values depending on the circumstances in order to have anything. I don't renounce my ambition - I renounce the fulfilment of my ambition - there is a very large difference there.but that all boils down to finding your independence and being able to ascertain what it is you genuinely what and are as an individual — TimeLine
This has nothing with any outward expression of anything. I could be selling groceries for the rest of my life, or working in a nursery, or living with my mother, or anything else that you'd consider cutting your wings off. It's not outward circumstances and actions that make life profound, passionate, and intense - it's the fire inside your heart. You may outwardly be nobody - indeed you may be a caged bird - your life may be completely boring and uninteresting - and yet inward you could be richer than Bill Gates. It's your inward life - not your outer life, that is under the question. That's what brings intensity to all the moments, regardless of how they outwardly appear.Then, the eternal beauty of our capacity to live, the opportunities becoming so profound, so exciting that real passion starts to form, only then will you understand life. — TimeLine
Outward things don't say anything about my state of mind and being, except superficially.What does that say to your state of mind and being? — TimeLine
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