I never understood the fascination with sex in the West despite being from the West myself. — Question
Society plays tricks with the individual in terms of showing the guys who have more sex/money/material wealth as the winners. Children are growing up oversexed and underfucked with all sorts of self-esteem issues due to the image society projects of a 'healthy' and 'successful' male. — Question
I think that "sex in the west" varies. Not overly surprising unto itself, but it should be noted because our views of sex -- especially when it comes to how we might see people behaving differently from us -- are not likely to match up even on the most basic of terms or desires.
My initial instinct to your OP was to say, yes, I agree that there is an oddity with sex in the west -- but I think this is more the result of the love/hate relationship which we (at least in the U.S. -- I don't like the term "west" too much) are ingratiated to. It's something which we should shun, but the very act of shunning increases our desire for it -- and so we want to have sex, but we also want to not have sex in order that our desire for sex is intensified, and the satisfaction of said desire is more
intense (not necessarily pleasurable) than if we just followed and acted on a desire for sexual satisfaction.
This is something that I think is basic in the U.S. regardless of religious affiliation. Religious affiliation can even work against this sort of "teaching", though also integrate with it of course. But I think the obsession with sex in the U.S., at least, has much to do with this simultaneous push and pull intermixed with moral and religious sentiments.
In addition, your second comment I've quoted speaks to something specific to U.S. masculinity (not that it doesn't apply elsewhere, but I prefer to limit myself to what I am at least familiar with). There are healthier forms of masculinity, of course, but the one projected upon us is one which is impossible to live up to, causes people to make poor choices and commitments, and in general is sex-centric in a way which is (so i believe, at least) unhealthy.
I should note here that I have no problem with casual sex, at least in a moral sense. I don't think it's something to be avoided, though I don't think it's something to be pursued -- at least for everyone -- either. Just as some people enjoy playing cards, and others enjoy watching baseball, there are also people who enjoy having casual sex. Why not, right? If all precautions are taken, and everyone is in agreement, what is the difference in a pleasurable evening over drinks and canasta vs. a pleasurable evening over drinks and fucking, morally speaking? There are religious prohibitions, and there are superstitions about what this does to our ability to form bonds with others or our current bonds with present partners, but I don't think these are necessary by any means. I can see them as possible for some people, but not for everyone -- they are not
imperatives.
But that being said, the kind of masculinity we are all taught -- and our parents and religions have no power over this -- is an unhealthy sex-centric objectifying masculinity that, in some very weird way, equates sexual relationships with sports, and thereby counts sexual partners as a measure of "winning".
And that sort of sex is something I have no desire to participate in, though sex
proper is really quite wonderful by my estimation.