"When" do we exist (or not)? You put a lot of thought into this question. But we should always start with the basics. For me, the fundamental thing is to ask yourself the question "Who am I?" It's a tricky question, but without answering it, we will only dive into further nonsense of identification, including all the unnecessary thinking and ideas. Therefore, discovering who exists is the first part before we start discussing when. And as far as I know, once we discover the Who, the rest will be irrelevant.