Hello Posty,

"How does one resolve this process of identifying with something negative or detrimental that it becomes a secondary disability, almost in some manner or form a dialectical fictitious entity of the mind or rather a neuroticism?"

Is to work out the very object that you are identified with. It may be a particular person, it maybe a series of events that were blanketed with loss resulting in an extreme case of vulnerability to any form of loss. They serve as constant reminders. It would be good to isolate this object that ruminates in your mind where you have no control over. It is the nature of the body to associate all from the past to the current object of identification. Everyday there is something that triggers this process in your mind, in your body. The slightest movement of your body, your face expression can also trigger this process.

Find a time in your day and a location in your home where you don't usually occupy e.g your favorite chair or room as they potentially serve as trigger points particularly if you have spent time here in these deep vulnerable states.

Once you find this new location in your home, gently sit down, allow your eyes to see what is around you while observing the state of mind, the state of emotion, the state of posture that you find yourself in. This practice opens neutral perspective point for you to observe. After a time, close your eyes and maintain presence to your surroundings using your sense of hearing, while observing where you are right now inside. When you begin to feel an impulse to stop this practice, allow and open yourself to this being mindful on where it is you are about to go.

As you continue with your daily life, aim to become aware of the impulse of identification, note the surroundings you are in, the interactions when this impulse emerges. At that moment allow the impulse of identification to be there, observing it while being attentive to your daily task at hand. Continue the practice of daily or evening sitting.

Bonnie