It is the pits when can no longer be the person we valued because of a life-changing event out of our control. — Athena
The intrinsic and personal value of a human being like you or anybody else, in my current understanding, is not dependant on our contribution to society. If that were the case, a large portion of humanity would be valueless, as many people have a negative contribution to the material functioning of social networks, being more a burden than an asset.
On the contrary, I think that citizens must consider their capacity to experience and imagine the world subjectively paramount for their self-value. In this sense, we can all contribute positively to the soul of our community and the Earth. Also animals make this contribution; but we humans were specialized in just that, like eagles specialized in being awesome.
Without us as meaning-makers and subjective experiencers, society is just a machine, and not one that will work for long.
Men and women have different views of life sometimes, but they are not opposed, and I also totally challenge the idea that we live in "men-dominated" societies". There are no men-only or women-only societies (The Amazons is a legend, not history); this gives us the clue that men and women are a single system
. People with more caring and affectionate attitudes in our society are a by-product of people who are particularly tough, and sometimes cruel. Very nice people can afford all that niceness because someone else, actual people or procedures in the system such as law enforcement, are assuming all the hard ways that very friendly and compassionate people do without. In social environments where this specialization is reduced, say the army or a prison or people trying to escape a fire, everybody is tough and not so nice because they can not delegate in social structures, or cops, or those people who kill rats and other pests.
And viceversa: people working in very stressful, competitive and even dangerous jobs can survive and raise healthy children because other people, say a wife (sometimes a husband) or a teacher, are doing the caring tasks that demand sensibility and tenderness.
If a society rejects toughness and its male side, becomes a failed state, like Sweden, unable to control who enters the country, or accept people with different political views, or preserve social order and protect women from being raped on the streets. If a society rejects tenderness and its female side, it becomes like Nazi Germany or modern-day China or Iran, an iron cage for its own people and a threat to the world.