Oh so this wanting people to desire you sexually is a good and honorable desire no? It's good and honorable to want others to feel like they are your property, under the spell and control of your beauty right? — Agustino
Pretty much. Women don't have to do anything in particular for men to feel that way. In a society where women are not locked away, where they are free to participate in society and draw attention, care, time and resources from others, men will notice beautiful women all the time.
If we are expecting women not to be noticed by men, we are asking them to withdraw from public life, to have no interest in gaining from the wider community, to care not for their public status (e.g. job, friends, whether they are likeable to a stranger) and to cover themselves head to toe, so they aren't recognisable as an individual who draws attention. To be someone, and wanting to be someone, who is sexually desirable to others is part of
existing in public life, by the mere fact of people paying attention to you, sharing their time and resources, as is part of loving in the public sphere.
Many men feel "under the spell and control of beauty" by nothing more than a woman walking down the street in jeans and t-shirt. Or the smiling waitress with a presentable casual uniform. Or the woman in a blouse and slacks working in the office. Merely by
living and interacting with others, women are people who are desired. Unless women get locked away, this is something men are going to have to deal with.
Ok so after you it's moral for her to do that right? It's moral for her to use her body to feel domination and power over another no? And the other should have no means of defence against this - no law on his side to for example call the police and to get that woman out of his face. Obviously she doesn't want to have sex - she wants to dominate me. That's a problem. — Agustino
No... those specific actions would constitute sexual harassment and sexual assault. My point was not that they were moral, but that you were equivocating a woman's appearance and behaviour with her desire to have sex. You
say she wants to dominate you here, but previously your arguments were saying she wanted to have sex because of how she appeared or behaved. So afraid of women having power, of being something other than the sexual possession of men, you turn their acts (whether abuse or not) into justification of male dominance.
If you made a pass at that woman or even raped her, it would be justified because she really "wanted it." You wouldn't really be engaged in rape or sexual harassment because her appearance or behaviour indicated she really wanted your sexual attention.
This is how you read the Trump scenario. You didn't accept those women had been abused. You said the must want Trump sexual attention because they were around him, seeking the power, resources or social prestige he might provide. You
say Trump's actions are shameful, but that's not what you
argue. You insisted the women really wanted his sexual attention (meaning, you know, he hasn't violated consent and the women haven't been abused by being acted on sexual against their will). Deep down you
agree with him about women being the sexual objects of men.
Then if they're not available why the hell do they want to be sexually desirable if not in order to have power and dominate? — Agustino
Because many states which register to men as "sexually desirable" are a mere fact of their existence or are somehow related to other social relations, personal expression, maintaining employment, being interesting to others, etc.,etc. It's not fucking hard, Agustino. You just have to take a moment and think about what matters to women, what she needs to do to maintain social relations, be someone who lives with others etc., etc.