You give up on your lines of argument rather easily. — apokrisis
A consistent atheist committed to a logical problem of evil seems, on pain of inconsistency, to be required to endorse some form of antinatalism as well. — darthbarracuda
And once again antinatalism is not concerned about paper cuts and minor boo-boos. — darthbarracuda
Finish the thought. What would that reasonable prediction actually be in real life? — apokrisis
If we are reasonable people, we could make reasonable judgements about whether on average those babies will later feel grateful. — apokrisis
If my perspective is "wrong" no ONE is hurt by it. If your perspective is wrong, someone is always hurt by it. — schopenhauer1
here's an idea. What if procreation is nether moral or Immoral. — hachit
What are the reasons birds want to fly, fish want to swim, dogs want lick their own balls, my mouse nibbling on my shoes and humans want to procreate? The biological answer is not going to satisfy you. You are looking for a spiritual answer -- or basically a philosophical answer. You don't want an explanation, you want a justification. A philosophical normative case to procreate. — Kitty
But I do not foresee a fruitful discussion based on the premises you have provided. All "Reasons" can be taken down as mere rationalisations. For example, even if you accept my first sentence, you could still reject the notion of human flourishing, by questioning the idea as to why we would want humans to flourish in a non-selfish way beyond any subjective rhetoric. As long as the context of the debate remains in the restrictions of subjectivity, the result of the discussion will be inevitable, namely nihilism. — Kitty
I can see that you disagree. And that you failed to provide a counter-argument. So yes, you have bowed out as far as any conversation goes. — apokrisis
If Being is intrinsically good, then Hume's Guillotine fails. In fact, Hume's Guillotine basically is a denial of the idea that Being is intrinsically good. — Pneumenon
but a perfect nature — Lone Wolf
"Being a good parent", for the utilitarian, is something that does not have value independent of the principle of utility. This is nonsense, in my opinion. — darthbarracuda
Maybe you are making the point that all choices serve the interest of some ego - even the desire to be egoless. Ah, sweet paradox! — apokrisis
But remember my ultimate position is that the self itself is a social construct. — apokrisis
You're floundering. — unenlightened
Actions are actions, and are motivated by selfishness or compassion. The cause of the action is the motive, and the motive is an imagined consequence. — unenlightened
And the action can have the motive of creating a new person that does not yet exist, for one's own sake or for theirs. — unenlightened
think you are confusing motivation, which is always future directed to that which is not yet, with the cause of action, which must be already in existence. — unenlightened
I've come to see consequentialist theories as inherently intra-worldly and incapable of acting as any fundamental ethic — darthbarracuda
hence it would fall in the middle category of your schema. — Moliere
But it wouldn't be for some end-goal that I do philosophy. Whether I attain truth or not is irrelevant to my motivation of doing philosophy. — Moliere
Actions are the bearers of the terms "good", "amoral", or "bad". What seems to be the case is that actions which fall in the good category are actions which are motivated in a particular direction: for-the-other. Categorically bad actions are against-the-other. Amoral actions are for-the-self. — Moliere
Also, the basic argument is that good actions are for-the-other, before birth there is no other, therefore the act of having children before there are children can not be good. That all follows definitionally from what I see. — Moliere
The question is, is there some kind of rejoinder to this argument? — Moliere
Alright, but then you do agree with the point that the instrumentality of action is not something intrinsic to self-interested action, right? — Moliere
So what say you about life? Intrinsic worth or naw? — Moliere
Would you say there are motivations which do not fall into these two categories? — Moliere
The motive behind such actions is better described as "I do them because I like them", and there ends the chain of reasons. — Moliere
I don't think the urge to procreate is necessarily egotistical in the least. It's often subliminal or unconscious — Wayfarer
So you really didn't deal with my argument - that even pre-conception, a reason for having kids is that you could expect it would make you less egotistical as a result. The desire to be less selfish could be a valid reason. — apokrisis
Huh? I'm not disputing your moral right to hold absolutist antinatalist beliefs. — apokrisis
when selfishness is defined in this way, I'd have to say that selfishness is not a defeater to goodness. — Moliere
NO-no-no-no-no. No. — darthbarracuda
Not a good argument. To procreate is to have kids. But perhaps you are not seeing it from a mother's point of view. The male can pretend it is all rather more abstract. — apokrisis
I'm due in 3 weeks with our first and before we decided to breed, I went through a period of trying to find a 'pre-conception' reason to have kids. Everything I could think of were 'post-conception' reasons (these are my made up terms), like to love them unconditionally, raise them to be independent, etc. And reasons like adding to our own loving family, having a legacy, etc seemed to be 'selfish' reasons - selfish in the very literalist sense. 'Self-focused' might be better.
Anyhow, I don't think I ever came up with a 'selfless', 'pre-conception' reason. I was 95% sure I wanted to do it (my husband was cool with it, too) but I just couldn't make that last part of me certain.
If you intentionally get pregnant, then no, I don't think there is a reason that isn't selfish. I think that's OK though - I think it's OK to be a little selfish occasionally.
I asked my mother this question and she said no! There is no selfless reason for making babies because the act of making them is selfish in the first place i.e sex..someone always gets pleasure out of it so there for is done for selfish reasons...
I love my mother always straight to the point!
My self I think no we have babies to because we want them in our bellies we want to be pregnant we want to love them and care for them..we make them smile for our own selfish reasons(who doesn't love to see a happy smiling baby)!
I have never found a selfless reason.
These responses are so interesting! Yes, striving to be a great parent is selfless and I know so many of us who are even just expecting are already doing that to an extent ... but I'm talking pre-conception. I still can't think of anything! I think the closest thing I've seen is adding productive members to society - but even then, that's selfless for society to an extent (because you just never know how your kid will turn out - nature vs. nurture) but that's not selfless for the life you're creating, right?
So in light of you asking your mom, I asked my dad ... he said "because God commands us to." It sounds so simple, and of course religious (he's a pastor), but I think that's a pretty compelling selfless reason. God tells us to be fruitful and multiply, so I guess if you take it literally then parents who procreate aren't being selfish.
Well after I thought about it God Commands Us would be my answer also...
Is it quality or quantity that is the issue here? How many is too many? How few is enough? — apokrisis
Existence is the wound that can't be healed. — apokrisis
In nature, wounds heal. — apokrisis
And some folk believe that. Which makes antinatalism another religion. In the face of all the evidence to the contrary about nature, it requires an act of faith to sustain antinatalism as a system of belief. — apokrisis
the only way that you'd be able to get away with mere good intentions is to equate existence with love. — Buxtebuddha
I do not, however, equate being with love, which explains why I'm not a Christian and why I don't find it justifiable to procreate. — Buxtebuddha
Lastly, the picture that comes to mind for me when thinking about procreation is children falling into an ocean. Some will learn to swim, some will drown. Some will swim and find dry land, some will swim a ways but give up. You can give the child a rope, a life vest, a granola bar - things that can represent good parenting - but none of it, in my opinion, is enough to justify the throwing of children into an ocean in the first place. Suffering will find you whether you learned how to swim, found land, founded an empire. I think it is Schopenhauer who argued rather peculiarly that suffering, not happiness, is what marks the world for compassion. In this way, or at least how I view it, one rather paradoxically lives for suffering in order to love, as opposed to loving so as not to suffer. To me, that puts everyone in the same "boat" or ocean. The fact that some find love and compassion doesn't actually matter if suffering is the mean. — Buxtebuddha
but I don’t comprehend how mankind could have any value to anyone outside of self-interests in the wellbeing of others — javra
Am I missing something here? — javra
Don't kids give you a reason not to be selfish? Aren't they an antidote to egotism? — apokrisis
Why not? — apokrisis
why isn't a civilised self a better self? — apokrisis
But then secular thinkers would have the least need of reasons here. They would just do what comes naturally - which includes making fairly rational choices about the situational pros and cons of having kids. — apokrisis
By having more people you are creating a state of affairs whereby more people will need to be helped, when they didn't need to be helped in the first place. — schopenhauer1
Thus, the best choice of all is never having been. — schopenhauer1
the child also inherits an amalgamation of the two parent’s worldviews — javra
ethical for elevated selfishness — javra
Because some would rather term elevated selfishness “non-selfish”, — javra
for the benefit of mankind (a category which does not exclude the very parents of elevated selfishness/selflessness which given birth … nor the very offspring themselves). — javra
If I remember correctly, some Buddhists (?) see procreation as a necessary evil that prevents souls from regressing into "lesser" states of being. Paradoxically, if humans do not procreate, they doom everyone to an endless cycle of rebirth in lesser forms of life (which do procreate). — darthbarracuda
Any reason to have children, in my opinion, must either be religious or intra-wordly, the latter being things like economic stability (such as government incentives to procreate). Intra-wordly reasons seem to me to almost always be selfish and immoral, since they necessarily use a person as a means and not as an end. — darthbarracuda
Yuck, utilitarianism — darthbarracuda
In that case, it may not be selfish, but it certainly isn't wise or prudent. And it certainly contradicts everything that goes into being a good parent - try explaining to your child that you had them with the sole intention of grooming them to be providers of utility. That's a shit parent. — darthbarracuda