Cite any evidence of K. thinking of his leaving Regine as mistaken. — Agustino
I do retract my comment of his idiocy; I spent today in a profoundly draining conference and typing on my phone is not that easy. But, one could perhaps be classed as rather strange if he felt that his future lineage would ultimately be 'cursed by an extreme melancholy' as his family had been, when clearly the melancholy itself was created.
K mentioned that there was absolutely nothing about Regine that could have justified his abandonment of her — TimeLine
"...and she is and remains an intermediate court, a legitimate court, that must not be bypassed."
"...she was the beloved. My life will unconditionally accent her life, my literary work is to be regarded as a monument to her honour and praise. I take her along into history."
K mentioned that there was absolutely nothing about Regine that could have justified his abandonment of her
— TimeLine
Where did he mention this? Cite it please. — Agustino
"I cannot quite place her impact on me in a purely erotic sense. It is true that the fact that she yielded almost adoringly to me, pleaded with me to love her, had so touched me that I would have risked everything for her. But the fact that I always wanted to hide from myself the degree to which she touched me is also evidence of the extent to which I loved her… had my vita ante acta not been melancholic, marriage to her would have made me happy beyond my dreams.”
Do you think that an attempt for forgiveness meant a regret on part of the person seeking this forgiveness?
He never for a single second denied that he loved Regine. He believed it in his heart - he had the infinite hope of someone who was certain about it - had complete faith in it. — Agustino
Cite please.
Regine was his - not in time, but in eternity. He gave her up in time so that he may have her forever. — Agustino
Cite please.
Furthermore, not everyone will agree that "mutual love" is the most important aspect of our existence. That's what you think because that happens to be your dominant desire. — Agustino
Oh, you know my desires, do you? Well, here I was thinking that I was an authority to myself. Praise, O mighty Augustino, for seemingly crossing the metaphysical boundaries into the transcendental realm that is my subjective. Hail, Augustino, for thou art a god.
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Love is what all people desire. This is merely an ad hominem attack to try and purport that my approach to the subject is skewed by proxy, perhaps because I am a woman. And mutual love needn't be erotic alone. It could be true friendship. It could be familial. But it must be reciprocal and genuine.
Regine implored K. to take her back for YEARS and K. still refused — Agustino
No, he came to her telling her that he wants her, asking for her hand in marriage and then changing his mind because his disposition was prone to this 'melancholy' for which she, in her devotion and love for him, implored him that she will do whatever it takes for him. You have confused her affections and her love for him and his waywardness whereby he would court her affections by telling her his eloquent and ardent feelings and then retracting the moment she reciprocates. She was constantly confused between these two states, but clearly she was devoted to him and loved him and he knew that and no doubt felt the same way in return.
He was terrified of the happiness that he would have attained with her.
I don't know. Not everyone's life is meant to be shared within the boundaries of authentic and mutual love. Take Alexander the Great. You think Alexander married because of love? Absolutely not - he married as was necessary to build the strategic alliances that his budding empire needed. Of course he probably chose to marry women he liked, who looked nice, were pretty and sexy for the time, were socially well-regarded, etc. — Agustino
I think Alexander the Great or Marcus Aurelius are extraordinary examples; he was merely a humble philosopher from Denmark and millions of men are just men who want to do something significant - like maybe write a book or work in a particular field - not become some whopping leader of a great empire. I agree that many men choose women who look nice and are socially well-regarded, but this is precisely why so many marriages end up failing; it has almost become easier to live in a lie, as long as there remains some superficial or fleeting happiness, which is usually the pat on the head from others in this social group. Genuine love promotes a longevity as it transcends this spatiotemporal domain; it is not about looks or society, just two people who are united with the same sensual experience. "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil... She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness... Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."
Donald Trump speaks highly of Melania... — Agustino
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As I said, authentic. The love must be genuine. Anyone and everyone can say 'I love you' but it is not often that one actually genuinely means it.
Infantile love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved."
Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love."
Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."
Mature love says: "I need you because I love you.”
Even amongst those who don't divorce, how many do you think aren't troubled by things like infidelities, adultery etc.? All my family (who aren't divorced) have cheated on each other for example. That includes older generations too. — Agustino
This is what happens when you do not actually love your partner. It is not easy finding a genuine bond, no one is saying that it is. Most people escape out of loneliness to form a bond solely because they will connect with a social group rather than actually have strong feelings of love and respect for their partner. They often play games with one another to keep things going when there is an underlying hostility or disregard, stay silent and accept their foolishness to a point of even sacrificing ones own identity and self just to survive, cheating and committing sexual immorality to make one feel momentarily alive. How tragic is such self-deceit, this public show.
We become disillusioned, but the latter does not mean it doesn't exist and most likely there is a strong percentage of couples that remain bound together by genuine affection.