No, it has to be one way or the other, there is a way that reality is even if we don’t see the whole of it, otherwise everything both happens and not happens at the same time, everything both exists and does not exist at the same time, and everything stops making sense. — leo
[You are conflating the existence of an object with the knowledge of that object. Since our primary sensory input is vision, our awareness requires light transit time. For 'local' events, there is no significant delay. For distant objects their existence becomes less certain, based on your knowledge. A natural disaster, terrorist attack, etc., could occur. A star 100 ly distant may not be there, after becoming a nova, 90 yr ago. People make an assumption based on the condition that nothing new happens. Someone you know passes away. You assumed he was alive, when he wasn't, until you got a call making you aware.]
[In the 1905 paper by A. Einstein, he uses a simple example of electromagnetism, requiring only relative motion of the magnet and coil to produce the effects. It's not rocket science, just fundamental physics.
1. The 2nd postulate states, 'the speed of light is constant and independent of its source'.
The 'independent' is the most significant property. It is equivalent to, 'events don't move', thus light is emitted as if from a fixed position in space, the same environment as the Lorentz ether, and allowing the 'fixed stars' or the cmb to serve as a ref. frame. There are no known experiments that can reveal any differences in SR or LET.
2. The 1st postulate states 'the laws of physics are the same for all inertial reference frames.'
When A and B are in relative motion, A will conclude The B-clock rate is slower than the A-clock, and B will conclude The A-clock rate is slower than the B-clock.
That is not a contradiction if you understand postulate 1. No one would complain if both clocks showed the same time, but it's not about whether the times differ, but whether each observes the same physics! In reading Einstein's work, he includes a disclaimer:]
"That light requires the same time to traverse the same path A to M as for the path B to M is in reality neither a supposition nor a hypothesis about the physical nature of light, but a stipulation which I can make of my own freewill in order to arrive at a definition of simultaneity."
Relativity The Special and the General Theory
Albert Einstein 1961 Crown Publishers Inc. pg 23
[If an observer in an inertial ref. frame can assume a pseudo rest frame, then he would expect light transit times to be equal out and back. The assessment of the distant clock requires a poll using light to get a clock reading. Both clocks run at a constant rate, but the transit times are not equal, so the assigned times vary. The observer is coincident with the emission and detection, thus knows the event times accurately. The more distant the reflection event, the more uncertain its time.]
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There is no absolute ref. frame. Light speed is finite, thus universal time has been replaced with subjective time. Position is relative therefore motion must be relative. Newton was wrong about two states, motion or rest. Rest is a special state of motion when two ref. frames have the same velocity. They can be moving relative to other ref. frames, while simultaneously being at rest relative to each other.
Motion modifies measurement and perception. The world wasn't ready for that, or to replace absolute values with relative ones, and all are still not convinced.