Some people -- white and not white -- would affirm white people's general guilt. I don't, even if white (middle class) people were the beneficiaries of the government policy. — Bitter Crank
I'm not sure it's that black and white. It's not as if white people haven't had an opportunity to become aware and once they were aware to vote for politicians that would enact different policies. They didn't. And I think the answer to that question is relatively simple: if you're white, racism is not your problem. Except, of course, when they protest.
What's probably an aggravating problem here is that class analysis is considered a Marxist exercise and "whoa, scary socialists". So poverty is a personal problem, you're lazy if you're poor and you deserve it. Nothing to do with how society works. And the worst about it is, those poor people usually work 2 jobs (usually standing on two feet too) just to make ends meet, while the rich complain about their 60 hour work weeks interspersed with luxurious lunches, fat pay-checks, holidays, comfort and
the freedom to choose to live differently.
Even when a very successful player in the capitalist system tells you "There’s class warfare, all right, but it’s my class, the rich class, that’s making war, and we’re winning" class analysis is still shunned in the USA.
Anyhoo, since this thread is about personal experience. Let's also discuss what white people can do to help minorities as well. And I've thought a lot about to what extent it is even my place to talk about racism as a priviledged white man in the Netherlands (with some obvious faults). But not saying anything would be a betrayal of my beliefs of what a fair and just society is about.
So I'll give you some of the bad things. I think I just insulted/put off
@180proof with the suggestion for a book title. In a thread about racism. Illustrating I'm still ignorant. Sorry for that. I can explain what I thought I was trying to say but it doesn't make it less ignorant. And I'm still ignorant as to
why exactly due to the language barrier.
At 14 I had two good black friends (I went to an international school) and after a holiday where I got a good tan I saw them and proclaimed: "I almost joined you as a nigger!". After their initial shock they explained to me I should never ever say that again and why. It was my first time I became a bit aware.
During my student years a lot of jokes among white students involved the word "neger" which means "nigger" in Dutch. I'm pretty sure I told them myself and I certainly didn't speak out.
Being a non-racist is like a journey where you know you don't want to be one but you'll end up being a bit racist because you don't know better (ignorance) or adapt in some situations (ignorance and peer pressure). And I think I didn't seriously start that journey until I was around 30 or so.
My best friend has a mixed-race relationship and two kids. We talk about racism often and about the more insidious forms of it. The forms we barely notice. So here's some things from my personal experience that all-white people can do:
1. Listen. The first question in my mind I ask when people tell me about their experiences with racism (or mysogyny etc.) is: "Have I ever had to worry about this?". If the answer is no, I don't know and I can only try to understand vicariously.
2. In my last workplace I had a chance to decide on the norms and values of the organisation. So I pushed on diversity and inclusivity. We had quite a few minorities working there so a lot of people thought it wasn't necessary. Until I pointed out the pay grades. All the minorities were in the low paying jobs. And I had to move people from thinking about diversity (which is just head count) to
inclusivity, which is about taking aboard differences and actually getting input from across the board.
3. Raising your kids to be aware. I actively pursue finding books and films with minority heroes. For instance, Moana instead of Frozen (if it has to be Disney). Black dolls. Black barbies etc. to counteract the negative stereotyping in society. There's very little to be had in Dutch though. :-( My daughter is 5, I'm already trying to talk about skin colour with her and the most beautiful thing about kids is that their innocence means the fairness and justice we later have to learn again, because we unlearn them living in society, comes totally natural. When in doubt, you can trust your child's moral compass! I go on a long weekend with my friend and his 5 year old so she has positive association with non-white kids because the village I live in is all white (seriously).
4. Silence is not an options. Nowadays, I do speak up at work, within the extended family (which contains some hard core racists, joy) when I hear things that are racist.
5. Support a cause. Put your money where your mouth is. In my case that's Amnesty International.