1. Yes, its an interesting theory but I don't thikn its realistic. Its the type of thing that lead to newagers claiming hte Native American's literally couldn't see boats on the horizon because they didn't have a word for a sea-faring boat. I can't really get on board with that - though, I get that there's some truck to it.
Perhaps trans women and men want to be seen as the gender with which they identify. — Ecurb
It seems fairly squarely the case. The question is to what degree they have the 'right' (iffy word here) to ensure others engage in that "want". I think you have the choice to edit your own life in such a way as to support your self-image and desires, short of harming others. I'm unsure why there is even a discussion about involuntarily ceding ground in the same way. I think if some conservative guy refuses to use your "preferred pronouns" (metaphorically)fuck that guy and move on. Edit. Ruthlessly. Most of us do this, I think, without much problem.
Since names often indicate gender, if a trans person changes her (OK, the pronoun is controversial) name from "Al" to "Alice" would those objecting to the pronoun preferred by the individual insist on continuing to call her "Al"? — Ecurb
Names are different to indicators. But plenty would refuse the 'new' name. In fact, I'll give you a little anecdote: Amadeus is, on my birth certificate, my middle name. My first name sucks, don't ask.
In any case, around 13-14 I "transitioned" entirely to using Amadeus. It is what the government know me as, what employers know me as, what school knows me as and almost ever single person I interact with calls me Amadeus.
One person doesn't. My mother. She absolutely refuses, through pure stubbornness, to adjust to my preferred name. I don't care. She's not abusing me. She's not 'dead-naming' me (despite me being highly uncomfortable with my first name, and the period of my life to which it refers, in my mind). She is just calling me a different thing, which I understand she uses to refer to me. It simply does not matter. I can handle being called a name which isn't mind. Hell, call me Jennifer - as long as I know you're tlaking to me, who cares.
Not everyone shares this. C'est la vie.
It needs to adapt, become more intelligent, and start thinking about how it can work with the general populace instead of against it before its too late. — Philosophim
I am reticent to immediately say "yes" because it feels like a form of "white savior" type of thing, but my intuition is simply that its right. Ahh..
Good manners suggest that we should refer to people by the name they request us to use. — Ecurb
I fully agree. "morally" I think "we probably should" is the better position ,because it also leaves room to not engage with bad, or aggressive actors.
You're backtracking — Ecurb
I don't think that's fair, but you elucidate well what's in contention. The issue is that legally changing one's sex can
objectively be considered false, whereas a name change cannot, at all, be considered 'false'. "male" and "female" are non-arbitrary whereas (at least first names) are entirely arbitrary. I'm unsure this moves anything - neither gives us a moral motivating for either case. I'm just clarifying what I think its a difference worth noting.
Why should it be one and not the others? — Ecurb
Clarity, and avoiding the utterly shitshow the last eight years has brought us with regard sex and gender. This seems to me a case of "you're lying to yourself", regardless of your position, if it's in your mind that less-clear, less direct abd less stable language is a better model for both social cohesion, interpersonal communication and policy. I cannot see any way that could be true, and that's based on the empirical results we see in the world, not some intuition or personal claim. It is not a response to say "well, those resistant should just be giving up and we'd be fine". That's essentially a fascist way of approaching the issue and not one I think either side should take seriously. This isn't to say you are
wrong but it is to say that I thikn this clears up several open, but imo, stupid, rhetorical devices at play. It is interesting that the arguments to do with either asserting a clearly erroneous current meaning, or arguing for why its "right" that the meaning change for x reasons always come back to vague, amorphous rhetoric like "being kind". They do not seem serious.
I'm unsure this is in response to anyone but something has become clear to me from speaking with my wife over the weekend, as regards the OP and what's being sorted out: Gender
must have a sexual component. There is no such thing as 'objective gender' and no one has ever, other that a 1:1 match with sex argued that there is as far as I know. Nothing but bundles of behaviour or disposition can be called "gender" if we're separating from sex. Ok, so far, so good and i'm unsure anyone but hte two extremes would have an issue.
But then the problem arises: What do those bundles indicate, in order to have them be categories, given that "gender" is not a set of categories, but a set of bundles. Its sex. The typical, perhaps historically manipulated, set of expectations for the underlying basis for the bundle: the sex from which it is expected. I fear this is simply restating something Phil has said several times. But this seemed clearer to me than anything i'd read through the two threads ongoing.