In the case of the Bible the confusion is easier because it is the product of a society in which tribal pressure and morality are confused. This refers to the problem of the existence of societies dominated by the sense of shame-honour and guilt societies — David Mo
I'm discussing facts. — David Mo
In guilt there is implied a victim. In shame there is not a victim. Examples: regret to have raped a woman. Disgust to myself for being a coward. Don't you see the difference, unelightened? — David Mo
The therapy I've tried, so far, has too much talking, — csalisbury
I don't think it is physical. — csalisbury
No one forces one to work. — Tzeentch
I don't really agree with this as I see a child be 'naughty' as something created by wider (mad) society. I think there is a better way than the reward and punishment route as I see this method as further imposing the ideals of society on the student. I just don't know what the better way is yet... — Evil
http://www.ashidakim.com/zenkoans/76thestonemind.html76. The Stone Mind
Hogen, a Chinese Zen teacher, lived alone in a small temple in the country. One day four traveling monks appeared and asked if they might make a fire in his yard to warm themselves.
While they were building the fire, Hogen heard them arguing about subjectivity and objectivity. He joined them and said: "There is a big stone. Do you consider it to be inside or outside your mind?"
One of the monks replied: "From the Buddhist viewpoint everything is an objectification of mind, so I would say that the stone is inside my mind."
"Your head must feel very heavy," observed Hogen, "if you are carrying around a stone like that in your mind."
Is 'not taking from the supermarket' really part of a system, in the sense Anscombe is describing? — csalisbury
I think "hurt" is a lot more complicated than that. — Metaphysician Undercover
Inevitably, mistakes are made. We relate "shame" to the occurrence of such mistakes and attempt to assign guilt. But "shame" goes even deeper, such that we are ashamed of the mistakes of nature, chance occurrences, and this is the real reason why we need to separate shame from guilt. There are many things occurring which are wrong, not right, and those things need to be addressed. We ought to feel ashamed of these things regardless of the guilty party, there may not even be a guilty party. Therefore we ought not seek to blame and cast shame, hoping that others who are responsible for creating the wrongs will fix the wrongs, we need to feel the shame ourselves, regardless of guilt, and we do feel that shame, and so are inspired to fix the problems. — Metaphysician Undercover
But I really don't think that a child, or anyone, can determine what being inconsiderate is, without learning that. We can easily learn hurtful actions which hurt oneself, because we feel the pain. But how can we learn the actions which hurt another, without being shown the pain? — Metaphysician Undercover
It is important to separate the inner feeling of shame from the shame which is cast onto us from others, in order to cope with the inner shame. This is because fear of the shame which will be cast onto oneself by others (punishment), is an enormous part of the inner shame which is associated with keeping the secret, as it increases the perceived need to keep the secret. — Metaphysician Undercover
So, I could never be ashamed of my nationality; if I could feel anything negative about that it would be a sense of guilt at being complicit in its sins of commission or omission. — Janus
In reality, shame has a double aspect: positive because it socializes and negative because it subjects the individual to the dictatorship of public opinion, which can be more terrible than justice. One or the other can be emphasized. — David Mo
Say: Mummy is mad (or disgusted or something else) and that's overwhelming (and threatening). The atmosphere just vibrates with it, and thats scary and suffocating. She looks at you direclty and accuses you of being naughty. Suddenly the whole atmosphere condenses in (1) a word and (2) a source. Naughty means : the feeling of the suffocating atmosphere + mom's glance at you. — csalisbury
If the shame of disapproval, meted out moderately, leads to corrections of behavior, then an overwhelming, shaking level of shame can produce, as a defense, an overly perfect fake self. — csalisbury
Is shame to be counted amongst the virtues? — Banno
It is the way we use "shame". — Metaphysician Undercover
I think that an important aspect of shame is the attention which others give to the shamed person. This is why shame and embarrassment come together in the same package. Shame is what is given to you by the others, and embarrassment is how you feel shame. — Metaphysician Undercover
Pure individuality is a false image = bad faith. — David Mo
I think for me the passing-by-homeless shame is as simple and stupid as not wanting them not to like me — csalisbury
But the perspectives are different. Anscombe is searching for a theological justification of morality and Ginzburg is making an anthropological analysis of shame. — David Mo
In the OP, you say "what is perceived" and "what exists". — creativesoul
But to live outside the law, you must be honest
I know you always say that you agree
Alright so where are you tonight, sweet Marie? — His Bobness
I tend to disagree with the common assumption that their shame has anything to do with sexuality. — Possibility
And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. — King James version
It seems to me that it has to do with social hierarchies, and the idea that it is ok to vent frustrations (also born out of the same sort of abuse) onto those that are lower in the hierarchy, with the homeless being deemed the lowest. — ChatteringMonkey
I don't see the link between Ginzburg and Anscombe. Can you clarify, please? — David Mo
We feel shame when our actions contradict the values of a group with which we strongly identify. But we also feel shame when this group with which we strongly identify act collectively in a way that contradicts our personal values. — Possibility
I had a thought like this today, at work, feeling a little guarded and out of place, thinking : my shame feels a little like a flu right now, or a viral infection. It's not totally separate from me, but it still feels like something alien that I have to contend with. And I'd like not to pass it onto others. — csalisbury
So, you have gratuitous suffering — Wallows
is there anything more we can do — Wallows
I heard he has anger issues. — Wallows
If I have no conception of pain, — Wallows
So, you're basically saying that suffering and pain has its own value? — Wallows
I don't see value in pain and suffering. — Wallows
The traditional Labour voter has largely disappeared, due to social economic changes. — Punshhh
