My definition of masculinity you declare a mysticism (hence to consist of "obscure thoughts and speculations") and instead argue that the gender is fully culturally relative and so cannot be defined away. — javra
There are two aspects of my criticism regarding what you've been saying, I do disagree with what you've written on two levels. The first level is an object level criticism, I don't think your definitions do what they purport to - I think they do a good job of describing some aspects of the conventions of masculinity and femininity, but I get the impression that you want them to do more than describe social conventions. Let me know if that's not the case. If it is the case, read on. Let's pause my allegation of mysticism for now, I admit it was quite unclear.
I'd suggest that some of these things are recognisably masculine and some are not. Making an INSERT INTO statement in an SQL prompt doesn't count as masculine. Making a SELECT statement in SQL doesn't count as feminine. I realise these are bald assertions, but I hope they serve the point. I'd treat them as counterexamples.
Let's look at publishing in more detail. If you have an idea about a thing, information has come into your brain, which is feminine as you're inseminated. Then you write a thing, which is insemination, so male. Then you read your own thing, which is insemination, which is female. Then your own word goes into your head, which is female again. You complete the story, which is male, since you're inseminating the world with your thoughts. You then send it to a journal, which penetrates their inbox, turning the inbox into a woman. They then publish your article, which puts it into the world, which is male... or is it giving birth?
You can parse each of these transitions as inseminations or births, and flip the gender they count as. If your word spills on the page, you birth it from within you, blah blah.
The point there is that whether something is masculine or feminine will depend upon how it's described. Which it shouldn't, because the act should be intrinsically masculine or feminine, no? A manifestation of all permeating principle? It should not turn on the whims of our description.
I'm sure you could describe everything as having masculine and feminine aspects, but that's moving the goalposts innit? Because the definitions you provided aren't just non-exclusive dualities, they're antipodal - oppositional.
-- The masculine is interpreted, be it psychologically or physically, as being “that which penetrates (alternatively expressed, as that which inseminates via information)”.
-- Whereas the feminine is interpreted, again either psychologically or physically, as “that which is penetrated (alternatively, as that which is inseminated by information) — javra
The penetrated is not the penetrating implement, the inseminator is not the inseminated. The strict distinction between them is part of the set up. Something can have both as aspects, but not be both at once, surely?
I think that your definitions capture a good chunk of how we think of and use the words, they're historical generalisations, and definitely capture "man fucks girl gets fucked" as the quintessential masculine/feminine duality. But I don't think it's particularly robust. I could go into it more, but pegging, cowgirl, men being service tops, women being power bottoms - there are plenty of violations of the principle - in which men are penetrated and women penetrate. I agree that your definition captures a way in which these acts go against
convention, but nothing more.
If all you're doing is trying to capture aspects of convention, I think you've done quite good job, but I got the sense you were doing more than that - were you?
There is another aspect of my disagreement, which I've focussed on up until this point - a methodological one. But let's focus on this object level one for now, since the methodological discussion should probably come after this one.