Am in college btw if that changes anything.

Is what it sounds like, nothing to nsfw, but maybe just some coffee? — Zolenskify

You and I know what will happen after that coffee. :smirk:

By the way, why do you want to get with your teacher? It seems that you feel attracted to her a priori.
 

No.

Keep a professional distance. There is a duty of care, a duty of justice, and fair and equal treatment, and these would be compromised by such a relationship. It would compromise your teacher, threaten their career, and undermine your achievements as a student.

Most schools have a policy prohibiting a relationship with a student that goes beyond coffee,but it happens. Since it is your teacher who must deal with the consequences of violating the rules it is the teacher who should make the decision.

No.

Keep a professional distance. There is a duty of care, a duty of justice, and fair and equal treatment, and these would be compromised by such a relationship. It would compromise your teacher, threaten their career, and undermine your achievements as a student. — unenlightened

Correct. Transfer to another teacher. Then get the coffee.

Depends on what "get with" means. After my first divorce one of my mature students showed up on the front row with an apple on her desk. Later that day she popped into my office. I asked "Where is my apple?". She said, "I ate it". We were happily married for 33 years.

"Where is my apple?". She said, "I ate it". We were happily married for 33 years. — jgill

I thought -- 'Mate, I don't recall reading that passage of Adam and Eve in the Bible'. :razz:

We have to never disregard the power of an apple. That's why I had one painted by Dali as a profile pic.

:rofl:

A charming story but if this were to happen today you might have ended up in trouble with the administration.
When I was in school this was not at all uncommon. What changed?

After the courts found in the 1990s that universities could be financially liable for sexual harassment, many institutions — among them, the University of California and Yale — adopted formal policies forbidding sexual or romantic relationships between faculty and students.

From New York Times:New Harvard Policy Bans Teacher-Student Relations

It depends.

:smirk: Well ...

... a student's pov:

https://youtu.be/7grUgixqH8I?si=7SxW3vFpDEV2X9Rg

or a teacher's pov:

https://youtu.be/ITnL7-2RwUQ?si=RaALyxM10i0c95Hs

I think this the wrong place to discuss this. I think you want reddit.com/r/getting with teacher.

I think this the wrong place to discuss this. I think you want reddit.com/r/getting with teacher. — T Clark

Yeah, I don’t really understand the reason for it here. This is too personal for a discussion like this. Sure, it can be philosophical, but then make it so, not some advice as no one here can advice the specifics of case to case morality that has consequences beyond the theoretical.

and This sentiment is valid and, because of this, I must clarify; I would never encroach on another's autonomy to communicate with complete strangers online, while simultaneously expecting them to act a certain way. How our conversations over the internet can become quickly misconstrued. Luckily, with as opaque as our understanding of one another can be, in return we happen upon the most insightful of thoughts, completely by chance at times. So, to have our own understanding of things is not enough. There are now more tools for humans to work with. Its now a matter of recognizing how each others' view of life helps us move forward, not the other way around. We accept the fact that, say, we're not super talented, or funny, or attractive, or... you get the idea. It doesn't matter, because any question we have can be answered so quickly, our goal - as intellectuals - shifts from how much to what kind of knowledge we equip ourselves with. For instance, our issue; I'm here, addressing your point just hours after the fact. But how many of us are already on to totally different topics and interests by now by virtue of just life in general? I look at this forum while I'm on my lunch break at work, learning alongside others who spend many hours at a time on here (not to say you can't work and spend hours on here, but I think you get me.) There is an obvious and rather cumbersome difference in attention spans on online forums that leads to no serious discussion. So, yeah, take things as personally as you think you need to. But don't demand others do the same. At any rate, the fix was as simple as rewording my inquiry: considering the dynamic that comes with mentor-natured relationships, is it moral to get with a teacher versus an actual professor?

is it moral to get with a teacher versus an actual professor? — Zolenskify

A professor is not a teacher? I assume you mean pre-college instructor.

Sorry, but this thread is a joke. Have a chuckle and move on.

At any rate, the fix was as simple as rewording my inquiry: considering the dynamic that comes with mentor-natured relationships, is it moral to get with a teacher versus an actual professor? — Zolenskify

Yes, that is better for this forum. Some questions 1) Would the relationship be exploitive? 2) Would the relationship appear to be exploitive? 3) What are the rules at your institution? and the question always to ask 4) What could possibly go wrong.