Obviously we see why there would be an intolerance for shyness in the service industry. Extroverted traits and pro social skills will always be preferred in these settings. — Nils Loc
think conversation is a social skill and that you can down regulate the fear response that gets in the way with practice. Just because it feels fake now doesn't mean it will always feel fake. — Nils Loc
Why isn't all the anonymous conversation generated here not an example of extroversion? Do your posts feel phony to you? — Nils Loc
Here's the problem: it feels very phony. It feels fake. I am not being paid/compensated as much as Harrison Ford or Robert Redford, but I sure am doing a lot of acting like them. — WISDOMfromPO-MO
Extroversion and introversion are not skills.
They are personal preferences. — WISDOMfromPO-MO
Extroversion and introversion are not skills.
They are personal preferences.
And, yeah, if one prefers to relate to the world one way but is forced to relate to the world another way, it can be exhausting. — WISDOMfromPO-MO
The job of cashier requires that you accept people's money for the good you're selling and to exchange niceties in order to have them return and buy other things. It's no more fake that you act like a guy who rings people up than it is that you act like someone who cares about your customers' day. You're just doing a job. — Hanover
You're being paid to act like a cashier. Do that. — Hanover
Insisting upon being yourself isn't always the best way to get along with others. — Hanover
There are many ways to describe it I guess. One way might be that it is more comfortable being introverted or extraverted. And it does take a lot of effort to act otherwise. The soul runs deep like a lake, and only so much on the surface can probably change in one lifetime. It's just something sometime may try to change if one wishes. I was quite introverted until college when I decided I would try to change a bit. — Rich
But redirecting energy, attention, focus, etc. outward because it is how "normal people" act has always felt fake to me. — WISDOMfromPO-MO
They are personality traits actually. "They" say extroverts are happier than introverts, and that introverts often want to be more extrovert if only they knew how. They also say that introverts can be trained to be more extrovert. "They" are psychologists who have performed experiments etc. I think they may be right, in moderation. — Jake Tarragon
Introvert/extrovert are just different things to do in life. It was interesting for me to try out being an extrovert, but it was always me. I was funny and enjoyed the laughter. Just an experiment. — Rich
It always leaves me feeling empty and unfulfilled.
But if the other person/people enjoyed the exchange and it helped us connect then it was a good thing. — WISDOMfromPO-MO
To learn and create something new takes lots of patience. I am still practicing drawing ovals as I learn how to draw. It is only frustrating or empty if I've expects too much in one lifetime. Small steps are fine and require a lot less energy. — Rich
Most cashiers I encounter don't say much that isn't related to the utility of the transaction. A few of them are somewhat dour with an inverted Mona Lisa's smile.
I found UK cashiers seemingly more gloomy and disinterested than USA cashiers from my locality.
Hair cutting folks are the small talk monsters. — Nils Loc
I suspect that very few extroverts would be members of a philosophy forum — Galuchat
When you say that you suspect that few extroverts would be members of a philosophy forum, what makes you say this? Is it your idea of extroversion that makes you say it? Is it something about the nature of philosophy? — WISDOMfromPO-MO
It is the psychological concept of introversion-extraversion... — Galuchat
Galuchat — Galuchat
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