Why Must You Be Governed?
I think you’re right on that one, and well said. It might be feasible if there is some degree of voluntary participation. But wherever Engels and Lenin proposed that the state would whither away has proven the opposite. It has only grown in power, and in inverse proportion to social power.
Lenin was right about the state as an apparatus of coercion, and noted it’s evil and exploitation; he was right that a state is unnecessary in a moral man; but his socialism as a necessary state of transition between capitalism and communism has proven worse than what came before it. People cannot be coerced towards a moral code, especially if you elect your revolution upon the skeleton of authoritarian institutions, where its essential functions of exploitation, control, and confiscation remain.
The communists of today still see the state as the apparatus that will emancipate the proletariat and help usher in communism, a la Lenin. We can call it state socialism or state capitalism, but it’s always state intervention on a totalitarian scale. In a way, it is what they imagined.