Reconciliation and Forgiveness I gots problems with my momsies too. I think that forgiveness is for you. It's letting go of hurt and resentment. You no longer feel wronged, or victimized.
Reconciliation is actually getting back on good turns with them, which requires somethings on their part as well. I don't generally talk to my mom, but it isn't as if we're on bad terms or anything. My sister is astonished at how I talk genuinely to her, and say what I think and feel, whereas she doesn't -- but this is mainly because our relationships differ. My sister generally got a lot more help from her than I ever did, it was usually her getting help from me, and I don't really care about not talking to her. She has nothing besides covert insults to reproach me with, and I'm fairly thick skinned, so they don't really work on me.
I don't expect to really hear from her unless she wants something, and she isn't that capable of a conversation, she doesn't really listen, and wants to just talk about how flat the earth is, or her alien blood, and royal lineage and things...
I think that I'm pretty good at forgiveness, but seeing as I'm a loner anyway, I'm not so great that reconciliation. I have broken off relations with many people, and I eventually come to a point where I see my own mistakes, or see where they were coming from, or am simply no longer angry with them so that I no longer feel negatively towards them, or bother to think of them at all anymore, but that usually don't imply a restoration of relations.