Parenting...
Just to say how I ended up with her. My mom put her in the hospital, calling her crazy or whatever, and she refused to go home. Because she had no means of communicating with the outside world, I got her a laptop and sell phone. She began communicating with my sister in NB, and she was going to move into a bigger place (is the story I got told, but I doubt it), then my Dad was going to go visit her, and then go visit his mom and my other siblings in Halifax. When he got there though, my sister said that she was out on the street now, because she had to move out, and her new place fell through, and she had no where to go. So, instead of Dad getting to do that, he got instead to waste his trip, and then have to come back immediately with her. She then stayed here and I enjoyed their company a great deal, but then she moved out and didn't/wouldn't take my little sister. I don't know if the original plan ever involved taking her. I tend to imagine schemes. My mom taught them all how to be horrible schemers.
At this point my little sister was in temporary foster care, and my sister and mom wanted to scheme, telling her that she was coming here, but then just forcing her to come home when she got here. I of course refused, but they did it anyway when I was at work, my little sister called the police and everything, but they made her go home. I then told her that, no I didn't not want her here, I just didn't want schemes, and I agreed to just let her stay here because fuck their schemes.
So, no, I haven't promised anything remotely that unconditional, and I didn't really willingly step up to the plate, and she is worried that I may throw her out on a whim. I've considered it too, when things get the least big difficult, and I can't control them.
An extremely tall order. I don't know that I can do that, and mean it.