Gender Ideology And Its Contradictions Language is a tool of communication as well as a mean of culture-building/identity-building. Yes, its integrity relates to its ability to maintain meaning fixed across time, but it also relates to the individuality that we wish to communicate. The medium is the message, after all, and we all wish to put ourselves in our communications. Every single sentences we produces are signed, so to speak, both at the direct level of the expressions used betraying ourselves and our intentions, and at the meta level of the relation we have toward the linguistic code we are using. The way we speak the language, the language itself, shows a character. Its why we French always sound arrogant : because French is arrogant.
But language is a character performance, really. We show who we want to show, in the end. If I'm at a stripper bar in Montreal I stop using my French accent and switch to my French-Canadian backwater town lexicon. Its just safer. We all perform the language. If its too hard for you to change your performance slightly to help someone who has or has had issues that you are lucky to never have, then I dont recognize in you the same great culture that has fostered tolerance and defended human rights.