Reading this was settling. If we allow ourselves as slaves to people whoms tactic is deceit than we put ourself back seat in the expenditure of our time on this earth.

It just sickens me on how some get by and respect themselves at all

What I'm trying to find is inner and true benevolence. Being 'enlightened' and 'understanding' without proper action is as having fuel but not knowing how to operate the machine. How should one act or not act, think or not think when faced with these sort of scenarios. Is their a philosophy that touches on being 'rude' via denial and avoidance

Percisely. I needed that spelled out for me. Everyone is shit to some degree.. That being said making the personal decision to disallow people from using or pressuring you with their agenda, whatever the reason, makes you a dick. Being honest to values is hard when you genuinely care about others