I also happen to have a low libido that makes me basically asexual. I have never had sex nor do I particularly have the need or desire to. I believe I see sex in a different way than most people do and this may be influenced by my lack of sex drive. — darthbarracuda
Sex seems clumsy, awkward and particularly unsanitary. — darthbarracuda
There are very, VERY, few males that in a relationship are willing to take the time to allow a woman to orgasm. — ArguingWAristotleTiff
You didn't say how low your orgasm count was. You don't have anything against you masturbating, do you? There's that relevant old joke, "How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice." Women have a right to orgasm (it was a subsection of the failed Equal Rights Amendment, a few decades back. "Women can have as many orgasms as they like.") The subsection was added to quell the likelihood of female rioting: sexually satisfied women are much less likely to riot in the streets. — Bitter Crank
You certainly don't have to depend on someone else providing you with orgasms. — Bitter Crank
We're limited by our personal experiences though, so you may be speaking of what you experience instead of what is typically experienced. — Hanover
Now I have been with the same person for the last two decades but I would be hard pressed to be able to name all the men I was with before getting married. — ArguingWAristotleTiff
So I have tasted what is on the salad bar but I really want to get to where the Champagne and Truffles that I have heard so much about are. — ArguingWAristotleTiff
Maybe I am the only one who feels this way.
Even with just myself, I start thinking right when I should be in ultimate pleasure and bam, it's like my Mother in law walked in the house. And then it's over, that moment is gone. — ArguingWAristotleTiff
BTW, the champaign and truffle feature is not offered at the price point that gets one salad bars. You'll have to upgrade a couple of notches for that. — Bitter Crank
Yo, two glasses of red, a joint, and then ask your partner to give you oral for 30 minutes straigth. — Akanthinos
You are not the only one.
Contrary to the cliché, lots of people are not sexually liberated. Millions of people have soaked up very negative scripts about sex, and many of the scripts end up condemning us for being sexual at all, let alone being even slightly eager for sex. It takes time and effort to overcome the negative attitudes about sex, sexuality, pleasure, desire, all that. — Bitter Crank
The point this is being missed about sex is, sex evolved as a path for reproduction which increases genetic diversity in offspring. This is the natural and primary goal of sex. The pleasure of sex is the carrot on the string; secondary, used to lead the critter to the primary goal. Humans are not always natural, so they tend to get it backwards. — wellwisher
Historically, pregnancy has been a far greater threat to health than STDs.The same is true of sex. The unnatural path of using the secondary as the primary is reflected in STD's and psychological problems and sublimations. Using an instinctive secondary, as the primary, is an example of human will power and free will. It is short term thinking where the long term result may not always be satisfactory or healthy at many levels. — wellwisher
If the distinction between natural and unnatural is that the latter involves the exercise of free will, then sex is unnatural.Abortion is not natural, but is an example of free will and choice. The goal of abortion appears to be a disruption in the natural primary goal, in favor of the secondary coming first. This is like passing a law that repeals all nutritional labelling on food, so people can eat for pleasure in peace without regard to the natural consequences. — wellwisher
If you cant ask your partner for a specific thing, out of shame, then you arent really partners — Akanthinos
Since the primary use of sex is pleasure, I would say that the primary purpose is pleasure, with pregnancy being a byproduct that is most often not fully expected. — Hanover
What you are saying is we should eat anything we want if it brings us pleasure, since pleasure comes first. — wellwisher
People are asked to control the lure and not chase every carrot on the string, so the final result is healthy. — wellwisher
An interesting observation is the left wing of the political movement is more outwardly concerned with natural things than the right wing; going green and save the earth. This is based on compensation for believing the secondary is the primary. — wellwisher
Religions have no problem with sex in marriage and with this sex being pleasurable. The reason is, it is following the natural hierarchy. Birth control is not acceptable o avoid tricking the system via will power. — wellwisher
It is humanly possible, but it should not be called natural since it often leads to unnatural balances. — wellwisher
The female's natural role in sexuality is much more involved than that of the male. She will get pregnant, grow an offspring, give birth and raise the child. Because of that, it is harder for the female to override the primary in favor of the secondary, using will power and choice. This is reflected in female inhibitions. She may go through the motions, via willpower and choice, but fall short in orgasm. — wellwisher
Hum, plenty of people on all sides of the gender wheel enjoys giving oral. And also enjoys having their partner voice their desires.
If you cant ask your partner for a specific thing, out of shame, then you arent really partners — Akanthinos
Yo, two glasses of red, a joint, and then ask your partner to give you oral for 30 minutes straigth. — Akanthinos
It isn't that anybody here needs a manual; some people need permission and encouragement. I never needed permission; you never needed encouragement; some people do — Bitter Crank
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