The fantasy that is created in the mind by words read, can rarely be matched by a partner in bed. — ArguingWAristotleTiff
Having said that, I should admit that in the relationship with my wife, she is far stronger and more capable than I. She's smarter, better looking, more willful and social, better educated, and she makes more money than I do. — praxis
The toxic concept of masculinity has strong causal roots that prompt many young men to suicide - or at the very least experience major depression - because these men parallel their identity to socially ingrained concepts like being the breadwinner or being professionally better or even more intelligent and women are often used as the tool to enable this. — TimeLine
I'd need a cite for this because it makes the specious claim that traditional male role modeling is objectively unhealthy — Hanover
It's very true that the fantasies we construct amidst mystery are generally more appealing than the reality behind the drapes (they grow and change along with our personal and changing desires, perceptions of perfection, etc..). — VagabondSpectre
Seriously? Fantasy is better than the real thing? We're talking about sex, right? Nothing is better than the real thing. — T Clark
Puts the lie to those who sneer at people who voted for Donald Trump. — T Clark
The real McCoy is quite good but often it fails to exceed expectations, anticipations.
We chase the fleshy dragon in reality, but we can only ever catch it again in our dreams. — VagabondSpectre
Our fantasies generally depict idealized forms and features. In the personal amphitheater of our own minds and imagination we magnify and focus on whatever we fancy. — VagabondSpectre
Unsurprisingly, I end up lost in the game, and perhaps it is tempting to conclude that the person is the persona, and there is nothing behind the mask, nothing playing the game but the game characters.
Because even if I play the game of not playing the game, I am still playing the game; it is just another persona. And yet the sense that I am not the mask I wear, the game I play, persists - it is an experience, but it is unanalysable.
Let's make a rule - one that is unbreakable: whereof one cannot analyse, thereof one must not analyse.
Call it 'the mystical', and allow that though it cannot be defined it can be manifested, (manifested through the relations of masks in the game, as the unsaid indications 'between the lines').
Trump isn’t reviving the American Dream, he never had any intention to. His kind only seeks wealth and power. — praxis
What gets me scared, or sad is: I don't think a lot of people are playing the game, or at least playing it to the point that they would immediately agree, like I did, that not playing the game is itself a way of playing the game. — csalisbury
Successful monogamy seems to me to involve a trading of excitement for security. — fart
Indeed. The act of seduction and its anticipations is so stimulating that some, I believe, sabotage every stable situation resulting from successful seduction to repeat that initial excitement. As you imply, that excitement is founded on projection and therefore ignorance. Successful monogamy seems to me to involve a trading of excitement for security. — fart
And we might also ask about the degree to which fantasy invades actual sex. I've known some who claim not to fantasize at all during sex acts, but I'm inclined to believe that many supplement the sensual happening with an imaginative frame. — fart
I was only saying, as the article you linked to indicated, working class people are dying because we have let them be left behind. They would be stupid not to vote for him. What do they have to lose? What have we done for them.
I may vote for Trump next time. — T Clark
They feel left behind certainly, and Trump is manipulating that feeling to his advantage. That's why they're sneer worthy, because they're letting themselves be manipulated.
It would be stupid for people like Trump to not support Trump, because they're in the best position to receive the benefits of his administration, assuming that, like him, they too are primarily interested in wealth and power. — praxis
What gets me scared, or sad is: I don't think a lot of people are playing the game, or at least playing it to the point that they would immediately agree, like I did, that not playing the game is itself a way of playing the game.. — csalisbury
Isn't that the whole point of "for better or for worse..." — Hanover
God I hope so as I have no desire to start over. — ArguingWAristotleTiff
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