WARNING: Long post ahead!
I didn't just call names, though, did I? — Sapientia
OK, my bad. I only responded to your immediate reply.
At this point, I'm not sure if I'm ready to argue that procreation is immoral per se, but so far, I think it lacks sufficient justification.
I think we agree in some points like the inevitability of suffering in life and that there's no way to remove it from human existence so I'll just look at the other striking points.
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From you reply, I get the following:
1. There is value in human existence and its perpetuation, hence, human extinction should be avoided.
2. Offsprings give parents joy. Parents want their offspring to experience joy.
3. You're glad to have been born, even if it was born out of selfish reasons. You see no harm in creating a new being.
For me, it wouldn't suffice to use one of the following as justification for procreation:
(1) I want a child because of <insert selfish reason here>.
E.g. I want someone to take care of me when I grow up, I want someone to take over the family business, I want someone to give me joy and inspiration as we both grow up, I want someone to solve the problem of world hunger, I want someone who will change the world, I want someone to finish what I have started, I want someone who will accomplish what I failed to accomplish, I want someone who will give joy to others, etc. etc.
I feel that it is unfair to project one's expectations to anyone to further one's own interests. The very idea of using somebody to fulfill one's desires and expectations just feels so wrong. It could be a different matter if the child can give his consent prior to being born, but we know that this is impossible -- all the more reason to take procreation seriously.
(2) I want to bring new beings who will experience joy.
If this is your reasoning, it is necessary to explain why we need to have new beings to experience joy. It's not like we need to have X billion enlightened people before life ceases in the universe and then its mission accomplished.
(3) There is inherent value in human existence so extinction must be avoided.
If this is the reason, one has to elaborate why perpetuating the human race is so important. If one cannot justify this fully, it is unfair to subject new beings to suffering for such an unclear justification.
Why must we prevent human extinction?
(4) I'm glad I'm born and I see no harm in creating new beings.
I think this is also selfish in the sense that you are projecting your (potentially limited, and probably subjective) worldview to a non-existent someone who cannot give his consent beforehand.
If you are truly compassionate for the suffering that this non-existent someone will surely experience, why would you gamble that he will eventually reach a similar worldview? What is it to be gained with this gamble? If you say that the joy is worth the suffering, are you not imposing your own value-judgment to someone who may not necessarily agree.
But then again, is it even fair to gamble with someone's life in the first place?
(5) It's just the way things are.
Err...
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TLDR:
Most of these questions of purpose, I think, as I commented earlier, eventually leads to the realm of the metaphysical/transcendental/unknowable so it would be very difficult to get a coherent answer. However, if one is to rely solely on what can be observed about the human condition, it is difficult to justify why one
ought to create new beings.
I'm not trying to convince anyone to not procreate per se. It's more an invitation to take a second look at the 'norm' of procreation and reviewing the motivations behind such norms. Because out of compassion, I think it is a serious issue to haphazardly/selfishly/ignorantly subject additional beings to additional suffering.
I think that if one decides on procreating, one must have a clear picture of why one wants to do so, in light of subjecting new beings through another cycle of suffering. You might say that it is unfair to focus only in the suffering in life, but
we can't deny that there is suffering and this suffering that new beings would have to experience must be justified.
If your justification is one enumerated above, I'm not convinced. Its not that you need to convince me or anything, I'm just interested how far you can elaborate on your views.